Originally Posted by kowalski

I don't pay conscious attention to a girls body language. It can be pretty misleading, ignore it. People sit differently for various reasons including comfort, copying their parents etc. Stop thinking and interpreting. Wondering what this, or that, means. Your unconscious will read her for you, and you will feel if she is responding well or badly. Whichever it is, control your own state and you will lead her into a good state.

Originally Posted by kowalski

Don't read too much into the skirt fiddling, or any little bits of body language.

You can easily tie yourself up in negativity.

Unless a girl is clear about her dislike of you, always assume that she likes you and it is on. From this mindset you can advance the set.

I've thought 'This girl doesn't like me' before, it just makes me nervous and want to eject. Afterwards I've thought 'Maybe she did like me, maybe she was nervous because I'm so awesome and she hopes I try to kiss her. Damn, I wish I'd thought that at the time'

Body language is multiply interpretable, so just don't interpret it.

Originally Posted by kowalski

Body language can be multiply interpreted. Individual gestures could mean a whole range of different things. Unless you want to spend months of your life studying and observing BL you will inevitably apply what you do know dogmatically. This will result in you misreading her as often as you accurately read her, and will put you in your head (which is the last place you want to be when you are talking to a hottie).

The thing is we unconsciously read everyone's body language all the time. Some things you unconsciously pick up on are so small they are beyond conscious observation. There have been experiments where men are shown virtually identical pictures of the same women at different stages of her menstrul cycle and asked to pick which they are most attracted to. More often than not they select the picture when she is at her most fertile, even though they would be unable to point out the difference that made the difference. Similar studies have been done where men smell sweat samples etc. This is how we get a feeling of whether we trust someone, what their current emotional state is, what their relative status in the group is etc. Allow this to happen naturally and trust your instincts. This will enable you to read her sub-communications accurately whilst staying in the moment, living in the interaction.

The only thing I consciously respond to is when her eyes glaze over as she follows me into a sexual state. This is my cue to pull the only trigger.

Originally Posted by Jaz

Ignore them. Now repeat after me:

EVERY SINGLE WOMAN I ENCOUNTER FINDS ME UTTERLY IRRESISTIBLE

Let this become your mantra. Live it, believe it. Paying attention to IOI's or a woman's body language will most likely really fuck you up for two reasons. One, body language or more specifically "indicators of interest" are unreliable. Just because she dosent flick her hair or bat her eyelashes dosent mean she does not fancy you. Secondly and more importantly, looking out for these things puts you into your head. You want to be live, you want to living outside your head, in the moment, having an amazing time. Then all the woman WILL be attracted to you.

Like most of the knowledge you learn in this community, knowing about these things is all well and good, but taking them too seriously can make your situation even worse.

Originally Posted by kowalski

Jaz killed it right there.

Consciously reading body language will fuck you up.

Plus, you have evolved to unconsciously read people infinitely more accurately than you ever could consciously.


Unconsciously you will read micro and macro gestures holistically, this includes things so small you couldn't observe them consciously no matter how hard you concentrated nor could you produce them consciously (e.g. slight variations in smell).

There are links in the thread below to studies that show examples of how we read people at a level that is imperceptible to our conscious observations.

http://www.puaforum.co.uk/consciousn...struation.html

You should trust this evolved 'intuition'. For example I nearly always know when I am being lied to, though can't put my finger on how I know. I just get a feeling that something is not right.

Originally Posted by Jaz

A very good point. As the saying goes "Always trust your nose"




Thats EXACTLY the same as myself. I have always had a good intuition for a lier. I can also usually tell with in a minute of meeting someone (male or female) whether we are compatible.