Recently there has been a deluge of threads asking extremely specific questions about live situations like ...

"How do I reply to this text?"
"I'm meeting this girl for coffee. I normally have a vanilla shot. Will this make her think I'm gay?"
"I'm going for drinks with 7 jews. What percentage of the night should we spend discussing foreskin?"

And more often than not the question is justified with the rejoinder "It's just that I really want to get this girl she's so ...".

This is a worrying trend.

One reason is that people are putting far too much time, thought and effort into a specific girl when they ask questions like this. It's a little obsessive.

Another is that thinking and learning this way dramatically slows down development. When people ask and receive a very specific piece of advice on how to deal with a situation, whether it is succesfull or not, next time a situation arises they'll need to come ask for another specific piece of advice and they're unlikely to escape this cycle.

"Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for life."
We're here to learn how to fish not to beg for fishes.


Here is a superior tactic. You know some things about PU. Go out and do what you think is best. After a situation has played itself out, come post about what you did, why you did it and what the outcome was, then we can discuss those motivations and you can learn and adapt. If you read through the posts of people who have advanced quickly and successfully, you'll see that this is how they have done things.


Peace,

kowalski