Thanks for the response K-wal.

Well I spent most of the day ignoring her to see what reaction I would get and have been negging her about her dating/dates but playfully.

It seems with this treatment she is less responsive and seems to lose interest in the relationship we have when I do this, so not sure where to go from here. When it comes to behaving like the outcome I wish to achieve, there's always a third party listening in, so to act like that would probably get me a sexual harrassment clam haha