Fact is, as you point out, they can both take you to court for breach of contract. So the difference you highlight is not a pertinent one to the question at hand, as you also recognise.

The difference there is how much it may end up costing you, which is also analogous to the marriage example. If you are married and it goes tits, it will probably cost you more than if you are not married.

In the essential regard both situations are the same.

I don't know where I stand on this. Before joining the community I would have said getting involved with a girl in an exclusive relationship was wrong. Getting involved in all this many of your principles are challenged and you are forced to take a second look, and this left me unsure. Now I'm leaning back towards the 'it's wrong' side of things.

Ever the philosopher, I have started writing on this to help me work through the competing arguments, not finished yet though so these sorts of discussion are of particular interest to me right now.


Peace,

kowalski