I've not posted anything more about the weekend passed yet, as I wanted to just sit back a little, and let it settle in my mind before I wrote anything down. I usually write FRs immediately following a night out while its all fresh in my mind. However, my concern isn't with the specifics of individual sets from Saturday night. My concern is broadly with my whole approach, and specifically, openers.

My last FR spoke of my frustration at not being able to stay in set. That I go in, talk for 30 seconds, and then eject. I linked this back to the use of canned opinion openers - that once I'd got a girls opinion, I felt a fraud when I then stayed in set longer than the question permitted.

Saturday night was much the same. I stuck stubbornly to canned opinion openers, and I didn't get very far. One or two interesting conversations flowed, but all in all, I felt low energy and like I'd hit a wall.

The very last set I opened on Saturday night, however, stands out as being different. I was in Bumper with my wing, and I was explaining to him my canned opinion openers frustration. It was late, and we were planning on calling it a night before long. However, I spied a 2 set at the end of the bar. I approached, walked half a yard past them, and then turned, and grinned: 'Oh, my, God! You guys look like fun!'

And I turned and slotted into a conversation with them, that lasted for 10 minutes or so before I ejected and returned to my wing.

I was chuffed after this. Its not perfect. I'm not going to go round telling girls that I think they're all the most amazing fun in the world. But I really do want to abandon opinion openers completely.

My aim in PUA is to become a natural direct gamer. Naturals don't go around asking girls pre-planned opinion questions. They just go around talking to girls. They just approach girls they like, and speak to them. I don't know how they do it. But I'm going to learn.

The opinion opener has served its purpose. Its helped me eridicate my fear of approaching girls. For me, going out and speaking to girls is now a normal thing to do. 2 months ago, it would have been an outrageous thing to do! So it has been useful.

However, now I've got a feel for the saddle, I need to get shut of the stabalisers and learn to ride on my own two feet.

This is my goal for the weekend coming: to go back to square one, and to see how many girls I can open, not worrying about the outcome, but rather just getting used to going in and talking to girls. If I fuck it up, fine. I've learned that doing that doesn't matter.

But I won't fuck it up. Girls like being approached. They like talking. And when I approach them, and don't even need some random question to provide an excuse to talk to them, my value is going to shoot through the fucking roof.

The foundations have been laid. Its time to begin building on them.