I think the main reason gambits exist are to not let you express your genuine self but as a way of getting over AA or an excuse to act because it won't harm your true self as they are someone else's word or techniques you have adapted not your own.
A stabiliser which then give you the confidence to do it without gambits, however if you look at how and why you have AA first do you really need any scripted material and then learn to deal without them?

I think that the drum analogy should be used more with the development of speech as opposed to talking to women. The first beat is the first word, but even before that crying, physical movements etc are ways of interacting with people.
Then again I have seen people teach themselves the drums without sheet music or instruction but that's drifting off topic.