i have performance anxiety, its when im in my own head.

thinking, not concentrating on whats infront of me.

when you say to yourself "right now i need to get hard" NO FUCKING CHANCE OF GETTING HARD.

you need to get back in the grove, you need to concentrate on her body, and not THINK about it. concentrate on her.

i used to have it with condoms, as soon as a condom came out i lost it, all the previous times it had happened had built up an inner resistance to condoms, i was in my own head. i got out of that by not tryin to be in my head. if i lost it i lost it, i didn't beat myself up about it.


i can understand why you are distressed, its your first time, everyone would be. but at the end of the day, its fuck all, its not that big a deal, you're making it a bigger deal. there will be a next time, and in the next time, just enjoy it. just enjoy the female company. look at her skin and appreciate it.

shit is tough, but oh well, there are worse things that could happen.