Thanks Tom.
I need to now be straight with every girl in my life and stop burying my head in the sand and hoping everything will sort its selves out. That behaviour is what gets you in trouble and then in positions where you become trapped and it then becomes messy.

To add to my statement of using routine like the ring routine as a backup...I have suddenly realised that i'm not going to use these at all as i would be then be trying to claw back a set that was originally going no where.
Instead I need to just move on and reflect on where it went wrong as i'd end up feeling like i've tricked a girl to like me instead of just using my own personality.

Thanks

James