Hey guys,

I don't usually write field reports but after speaking to my good friend Nova last night he said I should post this.

Anyway, I was out Saturday night with a non-community friend of mine, he is aware of my involvement in the community and he wants girls in his life for himself yet he does not want to make the effort. His energy and enthusiasm (for anything it seems) is non-existant, as an infield accomplice you could say he is a dead-weight. However whereas before my friends attitude would affect the enjoyment of my night it no longer bothers me.

I used to come from the insecure position of feeling I could only 'game' with the safety of numbers around me, i.e. being in the company of community guys who could wing me, give me pep talks, raise my value, give me social proof, rescue me, I'd look to feed off the energy of others etc. If I was out with someone like the friend I've mentioned I would not game, why? As pathetic as it sounds; because I felt his low energy would affect my state, others may percieve him to have low value which made me feel self-concious to be associated with him, I didn't have the support/camaraderie of others to back me up. I now realise these were just excuses and ridiculous excuses at that, a dependant (unattractive) mentality rather than independant (attractive) mentality, not even 'socially adequate' let alone awesome!

Anyhow, I was not going to allow my night to be dictated by my friend, if he wanted to be a boring, miserable sod then that's up to him but I wasn't going to participate in that so I left him to it and went off chatting to others in the venue. Fuck it! He's a 26 year old man he does not need me to wet-nurse him in a bar for godsake!

Recently i've been flirting with opening direct but this time I decided to grow a pair and just open directly each time I found a girl attractive. In order for the opener to come across as sincere and as authentic as my intent I can only open girls in this way that I find genuinely attractive and lately I've discovered that honesty and authenticity is by far the best way to go. My opener was simply;

'Hi I noticed you from over there (point to where i'd come from) and I just wanted to say I think you look absolutely stunning and I had to come over and meet you, my name is.....' (Handshake)

From there i'd just trust myself wing it and go into vibing, banter no inauthentic lines or routines.

This worked beautifully, no blow-outs whatsoever.

One girl even said 'Oh my god, that's just made my night' some dude soon marches over and tries to whisk her away. I remain unaffected by this and just turn to him and say 'Hey, what's up, my names Stu' and shake his hand. He says they're off to get food, 20mins later lo and behold she turns up again at the bar alone for more!

Best one of the night, approach this girl with a couple of orbiters around her, a third soon joins as does my friend who just stands awkwardly nearby. I shut the guys straight-out, communicate a strong and dominant frame I think they're alittle taken aback by my brazen attitude they just stand and gawp becoming spectators. She leaps at me but to make sure of the situation I say 'So which one of you lot is this girls boyfriend?' nobody owns up, she whispers to me 'Its ok I just work with them'. Bingo!

Sorry long post but just to summarise two things i've recently learnt (and hope others can to), taken on board and integrated into my game.

Self-validation

Nobody is the boss of you. Don't look to others for validation and don't rely on other people to be an asset to your game. To do this authentically it has to come within yourself, trust and believe in yourself, you are the key to your own success, nobody else. Do, say and act however you wish for your own amusement/enjoyment.

Don't be concerned about the company you keep. Tyler Durden speaks about this in the blue-print. The friend I mentioned is a terrible wing-man but he's a good friend, why should I allow other people to judge me by their percieved value of my friends? It's bullshit, I am my own person, I am not my friends. Besides percieved value is only a perception, it's not necessarily the reality. Anyone who does judge you purely by the company you keep probably lives an inauthentic lifestyle and is a disillusioned, poorly 'socially conditioned' cretin.

Direct Game

For me it's more authentic as I am just being honest and I feel more comfortable and at ease with myself behaving in this way. It's also much more efficient to your game as you don't need to remember lines or routines, you lay down how it is from the outset without wasting any time and even if you do get rejected women are more likely to respect/admire you for your effort. What's the point in over complicating a method from A to B when there is a much more direct route?

Enough of my ramblings for one day.