Have been struggling to pick myself up after I blew it with the girl I was seeing last week. Its like I’m stuck in an emotional well and its been a lot of effort to pull myself out, but I think the effort is making me stronger as a person. It’s not so much about her now, its about me, I’m disappointed with myself for the way I behaved and it was getting me down.

Sooooooooo...... I went into town today to buy some t shirts and do a bit of day gaming to see if it would help. Was good to be out and vibing with people and I was feeling better after making convo with a few people just being social.. Walking past Starbucks in St Anns square, I fancied a coffee and a sit down, but then saw the prices and thought – naaah.

So I decided to sit down outside on one of the benches in the square and chill. It was a lovely day - cold but the air was crisp and I was sat near the fountain and the sound of the water was soothing. Would have been nice to have a friend their too to share the moment, but I looked around and saw at least 10 other people enjoying it too, which made me smile.

I enjoy people watching and I started thinking about this girl and the girls I’ve been seeing this last year, partly to validate my ego but also just reflecting on them as people in their own right. Then it hits me.

The efforts I’ve been putting in recently to interact with women, open sets, number close, k close etc go on dates etc.. all that time, and I wasn’t paying attention to the person in front of me. I was proving something to myself and it didn’t matter if I didn’t really like/respect the person or not. I am glad to now understand this.

People are different, some of the girls I was seeing I got on great with, others it was just physical. I am me, there are some changes I’ve made over the course of my life but that person is still there and there are parts of me that I will never be able to change and would not want to.

I now resolve to be myself more. I’m still going to go out and open sets, etc. But I will only vibe with people that I like and connect with. Sounds so simple, took me long to learn this.

Therefore, I proudly announce, the Dolphin is no more. Long live David.

P.s - Can someone show me how to change my user name??

PM admin for a name change.

Listen up forum members. If you are out trying to improve a skillset, doing practice sets, being social to maintain momentum etc., you are all gonna come to the same point that Dave has arrived at sooner or later.

Look though, some people have gone down that road ahead of you, seen where it leads and come back to warn you what's down there.

If you are on that road too, turn back now.

We've all heard that, as confident attractive men, we should take right action. Unfortunately this is something you rarely see.

Many guys take no or very little action and what action they do take is forced and inauthentic.

Many guys take plenty of action constantly approaching, escalating and closing. Action, action, action. Again this is inauthentic.

In the first case the 'PUA' sees many situations where they want to do something, and do nothing, then they see a virtually risk free opportunity and take action. In this scenario the reason for both the action and inaction is to preserve the ego.
In the second case the 'PUA' has equated much action with right action. This is a mistake. Much is a quantitative characteristic, right is qualitative characteristic. One will not generate the other.


Start taking right action, my friends. It's Sunday tomorrow. Spend a Lazy Sunday (http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YKSIaeQ...ient=mv-google) meditating and musing over what this might be. What would right action, for you, look like?

Some things to consider:
What are your goals?
Can you achieve these goals whilst respecting other people as ends in themselves and not a means to some further end?
Do you feel complete in yourself, or are your goals designed to get things into your life that will complete you?
Are your goals consistent with one another?
Is the course of action that you are taking consistent with achieving your goals?

Allow your mind to holistically explore what makes an action a right action considering morals, logistics, resources, commitments etc. Then get off the old path that leads only to a dead end and start blazing your own trail.


Peace,

kowalski

I know where you coming from David..! Thanks for sharing!

p.s. BUT I always be legend though

Hi David and thanks for sharing that.

It is very interesting what you posted, as like me there will have been something that your were not happy with, and to that extent you took action to change and expand upon what you were.

To under go, change and improve the old david was left behind and dolphin became. A necessary step to grow, change and become, not a different person, but the best David you can be.

if you say that you are no longer dolphin, by the same light i would say you are no longer simply David, but a lot more

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