Flawless natural has probably been a bit diluted by the blueprint. I think what Tim is trying to do is show ways he operates within his happy but with intent mindset and the things he shows are things he has done on a night out on the spur of the moment. Which can be used as routines but if you are in a fun mood you should invent your own fun stuff to do like > http://www.puaforum.co.uk/seduction-...ose-downs.html

This week i spent a week in Turkey with my parents.
Not the coolest thing to do when you're 27 and single but it was free, i needed a holiday, none of my mates could afford to go away and...fuck it, i'm so damn cool, who the hell is going to judge me!!!
This is going to be a long report so bear with me and try and read though it all

Anyway...

Got there Saturday night with an awful cold, i felt really run down so spent from Saturday night to Wednesday day doing only sleeping in the Sun and having a few pint with my parents before having an early night.

Tuesday Night

I was feeling great, pumped up on cold and flu tablets and really fancying going out!
I had seen a few girls and guys around the resort that i'd over heard were going out into the town tonight but even if i didn't see them before i go out, i'd got it in my head that i'm going alone!
Anyway i had tea early and went to the pool bar as it was the only one with any music and got a beer and sat at the bar trying to chat to the useless bar man.
About 10 mins later 2 girls sit down next to me at the bar and order a cocktail each. Fuck i say to my head and ask about their cocktails.
30 minutes later i'm still chatting and chatting, i've got these 2 strange girls involved in a 30 minute conversation and got them laughing and joking and with me doing most the talking! This hasn't really happened to me before, whats going on?
10 minutes later 3 girls and 2 guys join us who had already been planning to meet the 2 i was already chatting to to go into town.
I get introduced and we all sit down at a big table which after about 15 minutes is covered in empty glasses from downing competitions.

12 hits and we decide to head to the main town (an hour and a half walk away) we decide to get a taxi though and all 8 of us pile in a 5 seater taxi and force him to take us, result!
We go into the first bar, sit down and order our drinks. I start chatting to a really cute 19 year old (from now on c19), part of the group i'm with and after about 20 mins she drags me up to dance. I do the classic of dancing like a nut job whilst every now and again spinning her and pulling her in (upon reflection it seems i was doing a bit of push/pull dancing without realising) after 10 mins she gazes up at me and you could see it in her eyes that she wants to kiss me and moves in.
I don't (it's far to early and easy) and we get moved to the bar/club next door!
I can't remember too much about this place! I remember bits and pieces but it all came a bit blurry after i ordered a beer and told the bar man to give me a free shot which he obliged.
He filled a brandy glass with Cointreau, Vodka, Zambuca, another shot, lit it and poured in Blue Sapphire. he then handed over 3 straws, 1 for me, 1 for c19 and one for one of the guys i was with. We blew the flame out and he lit it again and told us to drink it through the straw! If this ever happens to you, please do not drink it. I had a suck and it was alright. The 2 next to me tried it and instantly started throwing up at the bar! Nice! I had another go and realised what was wrong! You literally had 2 sucks of liquid before the straw set on fire and all you got was a lung full of burning plastic fumes!! anyway i persevered and got through half before i wanted to chunder!
After this drink, i don't know what happened to me, i felt like a god! I was getting nicer free shots off all the barstaff. People were trying to dance with me, I was opening everywhere, I had multiple groups getting me to join in their fishbowls, I could walk through the packed club with everyone getting out of my way. All whilst dragging C19 around behind me, lol! After a while i felt i'd put her out of her misery and actually kiss her. We do, she starts getting really horny and we leave to go back to hers, it takes 3 hours!
By which time her friends catch us up and we all go in to their apartment room. Everyone falls asleep and we do the deed for a few hours in the bathroom.

Wednesday

I'm going to keep this shorter as the last part took so long.

I go out with my parents and eat and watch the footy!
I then meet everyone in the club we finished up at last night.
They are all hammered and i'm only just ready to start!
It's 12:30 and one of the guys is already dancing in his boxers wearing a mexican hat! This becomes mine for the rest of the night! I get a drink! All of the barstaff come over and say hello and shake my hand and i get served straight away! Cool!
C19 starts trying it on again, I dance with her, kiss her..I'm not that interested tonight. It's too early and i haven't had a good enough time yet to spend my night being isolated by her.
After an hour they all want to go home except one guy who wants to pull.
So they go and we stay.
I open a few purely girl sets and crash and burn (they are all really down before i go in and i still don't know how to lift them up). The guy i am with is more of a chode than me and i've got to try demonstrating to him to just try and open. I'm the worst at this as i've only just started myself recently and there is now so much pressure from him.
Anyway, we muck about on the dance floor and now matter how much persuading i do he doesn't try one all night.
I start dancing with some really fit girls but they get dragged away immediately by some turks they are with, It looks like they are escorts but you can see that they both want to dance with me and keep starring at me! doh!
I spend the rest of the night bouncing round, chatting to different guys, taking the piss out of the turkish guys gay dancing (they all dance like homos). Then the end of the night, i sit down at the bar to finish my drink and see a really tall but very attractive girl at the bar handing over a suitcase in the corner. I make a comment and she starts chatting and then comes over, we chat some more and find out that she the podium dancer at the club, more chat and she introduces me to the DJ, more chat and she invites me to go to breakfast with them now, Whey i think, until....Gay turk appears out of nowhere, i'd been taking the piss out of his dancing and now wants to talk shit! he sits down and within 1 minute of talking to me he's started to creepily chat to the dancer and scared her off, what a C**T! but she leaves saying to find her back there tomorrow!
We go home after trying to get rid of the gay turkish guy for 30 mins!

Thursday

Nothing happens, we don't go out coz everyones too hungover and argumentative. Pussies! Upon reflection I should have gone on my own!

Friday

Another short one
Last night out, i go for a meal with my parents and arrange to meet everyone at 11 back at the hotel.
I get offered a lift to the hotel from the restaurant owner for free as we were good customers and I accept and my parents stay at the restaurant.
He gets one of his staff to drop me back at the hotel, who it turns out, has never driven in his life! I have to start the car and he tells me to drive it! No Way, i've had quite a few and am not being pulled over for this dick, anyway after teaching him the gears, how to put on a seat belt and stop slamming the brake on everytime he tries to slow down, we set off!
We get to the hotel somehow, after he's spent the whole journey in the middle of the road with his full beam on with cars coming at us!!!
The mood was a bit down when i get there so i get everyone playing drinking games and then we head into town via taxi! Back to the same 2 bars again but least i'll get more free drinks, i do and chat to the bar staff for a bit!
In a 5 minute span of standing at the bar, i manage to spill 3 different drinks at different times down some poor turks back so by him a drink!
I bounce around the club, dance with C19 for a bit then some other girls then isolate c19 for ages, more drinks, more dancing, then we leave.

Everyone takes ages to get back home so me and C19 go off ahead and then go back to mine, more of doing the deed and then we sleep for 2 hours as we have to pack to go home!
See her later and we exchange numbers and now she wants to meet up with me!

Reflection

First of all, thanks for reading this, it was too long so kind of kept the last few days as short as possible

1. I've never been in as good a state as Tuesday! I was the coolest mutherfucker in the world that night! I owned everywhere i went! I really need to find out how the hell i got into that state because that is how i need to be forever. This then progressed all the way over to the end of the holiday but i can feel it slowly dwindling away!

2. Have girls got dirtier now a days, it seems like every 19 year old i've met recently has been really open about their sexual doings and are filth compared to all the older girls i've been with, lol!

3. Sometimes i get stuck asking just logical questions, 1 after the other, after the other! I need to add statements to it or expand more! ideally i need to go to improv but until then, i need to work on expanding my stories and questioning!

4. I also need to keep opening everyone i see!

Thanks

James

Wow, seems like your making real progress here

Keep up the good work!

i'm a bit hit and miss at the moment.

Sometimes i can have a great night. Other times i look like the biggest chode in the place.
I still need to open more and also work on getting a constant state and i still haven't got a 10 yet especially through my own doing but i'm getting there.

I went out with a mate yesterday for a beer and to watch the footy and he remarked on how i seem to be much more outgoing!

Every little step feels like I'm climbing a mountain and I am still miles from the top but with all the hard work and effort I'm putting in, I'm starting to feel the benefits

Your getting there and you know you can reach that state now. Don't expect to be like it all the time your only human after all and try not to concern with getting to this state just try to enjoy life you can't force a happy state.

James,
Really enjoyed reading that last field report....! Well done dood!

Onwards and upwards...

Thursday 22nd Oct 2009

Not much happened in the way of a field report so more of an update of my progress of changing today!

Tonights plans were supposed to be a Booster Hypnosis/NLP session at 7:30 and then straight to PD2G's to spend the evening with her! I had a great feeling that i was going to get blown out again though.
I did as per the post here says (this will be linked once i work out how to)

Anyway.. 7:30 hit and it was time for my booster session. I had, had 5 sessions over a year ago to help me with my confidence as had hit a low patch when my ex first split with me and found that it really helped.
I booked this before i went on holiday as was hoping to get an appointment before i went to help me with any AA nerves i had whilst out there, unfortunately he didn't have any free spaces then so i thought that i'd book one for after anyway for the hell of it. As Tesco's keeps reminding us....Every little helps.

I sat in the chair and discussed why i wanted a top up, etc (mainly to help with confidence and AA) and he then he started his process of putting me under and talking to my sub-conscious! An hour later, it's finished.

Now last year, everytime i left one of these sessions, i felt so pumped...like i was on a massive drug. I felt so happy and alive and wanting to go out and could do anything.
This time however, i felt normal. Just like i had before i went in. I don't believe that this was anything to do with the session not working. I feel like..well, i don't need it. I feel like i'm in a place where i can see happyness in everything and feel at a really good level of confidence.

I get back to my flat pondering and feeling weird about what just happened! Have a really great dump and text C19! I've recently found out the actual distance she lives from me and it's not good but it's one of her mates that I met on holidays birthday next week and C19 wants me to come over for it and stay in a hotel with her!
(I am under no illusions that this is going to go anywhere i'm not that naive! so am happy to travel a few times to see her and get a few good experiences in these new cities and get some more friends)
A couple of more texts and then start some ironing! 10 seconds in and she rings!
Fuck...I throw my phone on the bed and ignore it!
What am i doing?!?!?! Why didn't i answer?? I haven't done a phone game yet and i just immediately panicked! what a cock, i've just been telling myself how much confidence i have and then i do something stupid like that and prove that i haven't!
Right quick text her, say you're in Sainsbury's and you'll call in 20...i do!
I then go to sainsburys to get a case in, i need beer!!
I get back open a tinny and look at my phone! I'm not nervous or scared, why? I was earlier! I feel calm. Then the voice hits me.
"Why are you going to ring her? What if you can't think of anything to say? What if she finds you boring and goes off you? etc."
I start laughing.."Shut up head!"
I have just realised that I am confident and was all along. This is also not a self-conscious issue. This is purely my concious trying to protect myself out of habit, as it has done for so many years!
But now i've seen it properly i feel like it's gone or i can control it now.
I look at my phone again.....Nothing....no bad thoughts! then something pops in my head!
"I'm the coolest muthafucker in the world!"
I dial!
25 minutes later i finish the call.
I feel like a god again!
A minute later i get a dirty picture message, shes so fit! I rule!

Thanks

James

Love it! I admire the openess and honesty that goes into your field reports. Good work!

congrats on the turn around robbo. i get the same feeling when i overcome a challenge like that. it leaves me buzzing and happy to be alive. it sounds like your a head of me though in the self believe. i hope to have the same belief you show in that post one day. congrats on getting there!

would you recommend the NLP/Hypnosis sessions?

hmmmm........thats a really really good question!!
Last year i would say...YES DO IT, EVERYONE HAS TO!!!
but now my opinion has changed!

I wouldn't hesitate to recommend it to anyone who was in my situation a year ago. I was really low. Stuck in a rut of low confidence and low self-esteem to the point of not being able to talk to anyone i didn't know.
If a new person joined our social group i would always be the last person to talk to them and i only would if everyone else had left us to it and i had no choice.
It helped amazingly well at getting me to a point of normality.

Whilst i was doing it a year ago, i found out that another mate had just finished doing it. He was in the same position as me and said that after doing it he felt so alive. He could approach any girl he liked whenever he wanted!

This year after doing the booster session, i found that it is basically a very expensive way of getting into State and you get the same feelings as when you've opened 3 good sets and from that you feel like you can open everyone and anyone.

My answer now would be......
1. (As Kowalski says) keep telling yourself that you're the man (or something like that) every day until you begin to believe it.
2. Every day wake up and remember a time when you were confident and felt like the man, then do the same when you go to bed.
3. Approach, approach, approach! even if it's only a 10 second conversation
4. Have fun!

If you do all of these then it's a lot cheaper and probably more rewarding in the long run.
If you are finding that you are so confidence-less that you cannot do any of the above especially number 3, then definitely go for the NLP/CBT/Hypnosis sessions.

Adam, You guys have quite a good community in Manchester and think you support each other and push each other enough to mean that you are way past needing the sessions and are probably more confident than you think you are.

Thanks

James