Group: PUA forum
Subject: Field Report - Bar
Author: Beedlz


So here is mine...

So Saturday night was one of my friends birthdays. We went to the Boathouse in Putney. Needless to say my AFC friends were in the usual shit mood, just wanting to sip beer and chat to each other. I got bored of this in about 5 minutes and decided to venture out on my own.

I went outside to smoke and there seemed to be a 6 standing outside with her boyfriend. I decided to go for it.

Bdlz: Hey guys, what's happening? Did you see those two girls in there pulling each other's hair and fighting over some fat guy?
HB's Bf: No! Really?
HB: No!
Bdlz: Yeah man it was crazy! Would have been hilarious if one of them was wearing a wig don't you think?
Both laughed
Bdlz: So what you up to?
HB's Bf: No nothing really.
Bdlz: Pretty boring huh?
HB's Bf: Yeah.
Bdlz: So you don't sound like your from around here, where are you from?
HB's Bf: Well, we are from Bulgaria
Bdlz: Oh, cool so how long you been here for?
HB's Bf: Only a few months actually. (Laughs)
Bdlz: Crazy! Are you both enjoying it here (Trying to include HB)
HB's Bf: Yes. Can't a job though.
Bdlz: Oh yeah? What work do you do?
HB's Bf: Anything really. (Tries to explain but can't because his English was really bad, so the HB helps)
HB: He is trying to say that he likes to work in construction and has experience with painting and building. He will do anything really.
Bdlz: No ways. Really. I have friend in the construction business. You should contact me for more information.
HB: Ah that would be really sweet of you.
Bdlz: It's no problem. So what do you do?
HB: No, I don't have work either.
Bdlz: Well you're English is very good hey, although you have something stuck in your hair. (I pretend to pull it out)
HB: *Smiles/Blushes* Thank you.
Bdlz: So are you enjoying it here.
HB: Yes, I have been having a great time in London. I love the old buildings and all the museums.
Bdlz: Yes, arn't they just amazing! Do you like art by any chance?
HB: Oh I love art!
Bdlz: Cool well I know some great art venues.
HB: Oh that's fantastic!
Bdlz: I might be able to do something for you work wise as well. Maybe some call center work, it's better then nothing.
HB: Really that would be great!
Bdlz: Yeah no sweat. What's the best way to get a hold of you though.
HB: Oh here is my number take it down!
I hand her a piece of paper and a pen, she laughs and writes it down. She adds a little heart by her name!

I decided to leave this HB, because she was only a six, had a boyfriend who could hardly speak English and I was ampt for hotter. So I used the classic...

Bdlz: Well I had better get back to my friends. Great to meet you two.

Went back inside and suffered. I got too chicken to approach any other people. Had some beers.

I approached one group of about 7 people. Two guys and 5 girls. One of the girls was a nine.

I approached the group wrong though and landed up between the two dudes. I was so mad and could not get out of it. The girls just were chatting to each other and no one could break into the group. My friends saved me after a while thank God.

Another group I approached with the classic, "Hey looks like the parties over here!" LOL it obviously was not, because they all looked SO miserable and gave me such bad body language. They ALL turned away from me. I stuck around for a minute or so and then left.

Trust me I carried on sarging all by myself all over London at about 4 different clubs and nothing. It seems to happen to me when I'm not looking for it, if you know what I mean?

Even my house mate brought home a girl, although trust she was about a 3 hey! And he had known her since primary school! Ha ha ha ha ha.

Seems I need a lot more balls to do this kind of thing with REAL HB's!

So on the whole A VERY DISAPPOINTING night!

Till next time.

Beedlz

I'm going to disagree with you on it being "a very disappointing night" - sounds like it went well to me, considering it was your first time sarging. Try and take some positives from the whole experience - by the sounds of it you were fearless and outcome-independant. It takes balls to keep on approaching like that on a first night out so good on ya.

Try not to be put off after an experience like this. Whether it feels like it or not, you'll have learnt a shit load from that night and next time you go out you'll put it right and get a little further. Before you know it you'll look back to tonight and will have progressed miles. That's what's happened for me, even in the couple of months I've been doing this I've come on in leaps and bounds.

It's all about taking baby steps and practicing as much as is humanly possible.

I agree with Blanca it didn't sound too bad a night.
You approached by yourself all night with no wingman to back you up that takes balls.

You should have asked the first girl if he was her boyfriend, you didn't know for sure. You held both of them in conversation and made them laugh, you pretended to pull something out the girls hair and she smiled, she could have got pissed off and the possible boyfriend could have got pissed too but because you had put them both at ease this didn't happen.

Try to get out of your head and not think 'what are they thinking about me' because they'll most likely be thinking the same.
There are some guys in London you could go out with that might help.