If you genuinely like her Alex why chuck in the towel over one bad night? Tell her you were having an off night and if you really want to be honest and upfront with her tell her exactly why. You've got nothing to lose.

Don't give up on this one. I really think she'd understand if you were to just explain to her why it wasn't a great night from your point of view. If she is a reasonable person, she'll understand. If not, then fine - she wasn't worth it anyway was she!

We all have nights where we just don't feel like we're hitting the right notes. And we have other ones where we hit them all 100% crystal clear and can't put a foot wrong. Learn to tumble with them both, and keep bouncing back for more.

If I was feeling off and couldn't shake it, I'd definitely bring it up otherwise it becomes a huge 'elephant in the room'.

As for pursuing this, only you can decide. But, maybe wait till your feeling a bit more chipper before making that decision.

... and if you do decide to continue, grow a pair and make something happen.


Peace,

kowalski

why don't you tell her about the cyclothymia? say it was no reflection on her; u enjoy hanging out with her, etc.

As, although it's generally good to keep a positive vibe about conversation, since you guys have already met up a few times, I see no reason not to throw her a less positive thing / perhaps she'll feel you are confiding in her / being open / etc?

Blimey, that's quite a response from everyone! Thanks for the input guys, I'll fill you in on where everything is at the moment.

I asked her if she was doing Lab last night, but she wasn't since she was skint. It was a shame - I was going to explain the other night to her and see how things went. I went along nonetheless (I'm glad I did too, KOAN Sound were awesome - anyone who likes dubstep should check them out) and had a bloody good night. Over the course of said night, I somehow gleaned the information that, despite being skint, she was at a different club not too far away. Probably not a good sign...

Like I said before, I'm probably not going to make an effort to continue with this persuit. Things have become too messy and potentially awkward. Instead, I'm going to identify my mistakes (because there were some aside from being in a gash mood that night), learn from my mistakes and move on. As is, I've probably left it too late to explain the other night, and (as a result of some mistakes) I can feel the Friend Zone looming over the horizon. I've seen her a few times now, and nothing has happened. It's probably unlikely to now.

To address your point Hustler, one of the main reasons I'm moving on is that I don't "really like" her. Don't get me wrong, she's a lovely girl - quirky (the way I like 'em ), easy to talk to, not up herself or uptight and she is a genuinely nice person. But at the end of the day, I only really want to sex her. I don't see the relationship going any further than that - in several important ways, she's not my type - so it's no big deal to move on.

So anyway, mistakes I made (being in a low mood aside):

1) Far too little kino over the course of the several meetings we had. This is an area of game I need to work on big time, but at the same time, I think it's something that will come naturally. It's definitely not something that can be forced.

2) I didn't kiss her soon enough. This was partly due to her huge mate being there the first couple of times, and (despite saying they were just friends) being very close with her, and partly due to it not feeling right or natural. This latter reason was my mistake - mostly me getting a bit stuck in my head and not taking decisive, dominant action.

3) Too little statement of intent. Despite some saucy texts threatening a damn good spanking, and a liberal sprinkling of "SOI" compliments, I think she was in doubt that I actually liked her. Mostly this was me just needing to man up and let her feel the Gs!

I do take on board what you guys have suggested about carrying on and having nothing to lose - I plan to phone her at some point for a chat. The difference is, I'm expecting nothing and persuing nothing. If something comes of that, awesome. If not, like you said, I've lost nothing.

Haha, the classic huge mate. Always there to throw a spanner in the works on a night out!