or just Hull in general!

It's been a bit of a crazy weekend. I went out 2 nights on trot. There's far too much to tell but I will try to summarise. The main thing is that I've started my PUA journey and smashed a few limbs off the AA monster.

Friday Nite

Hot out of work, I went over to Bristol to meet Blanca and Summer Junky. Was good to get out and speak to people who are on the same journey as you are. If you haven't hooked up with the community face to face, do! I'm looking forward to going out sarging with these guys. (We also talked about doing a road trip up to Manchester. If anyone is interested, let me know.)

I was interesting to hear other points of view about the Game and different styles of approach.

Fully inspired, I rocked on back to Chepstow for some start a night out with a few mates. My mission was to stay sober and sarge hard. So basically I stayed sober, but I was complete overwelled by AA the whole night. I didn't approach one set all night. I was pretty exasberated by the end of the night. It's was AA in its full glory. Thinking too much, not approach in 3 seconds and the standard mind going blank pre entry which adds to the anxiety.

Anyway, I didn't lose hope. I gave myself a good talking to when I got back and read the section on AA in Magic Bullets which reminded me that I will be rejected and to deal with it and that I won't die! Friday reminded me wh I've want to get this cracked and that I really have to take a few risks if I want to become a PUA.

Saturday Night

So, last Thursday and old mate of mine calls me and say him and a few of my other mates are going to my university town, Hull. This was an omen in my mind because it was then I started to realise how poor I was at meeting women (or just generally talking to strangers). It was years later after University that I discovered the Game (I wish I discovered it back then!). It also highlighted how long i've been living with AA and how much I need to smash it now!

My friends are awesome, but particularly one of then, let's call him Rudderman (longstory). Anyway, Rudderman has a complete natural PUA. I'm pretty sure he doesn't know that PUA even exists but he was awesome at apppoaching, DHV and the rest of the esculation. The other guys were pretty natural too at the game (one of them impressed me by picking up / kissing a girl in 5 mins and in a kebab shop!). They have never had any issues with picking girls up and were great natural wings.

I managed to get up there are by 7! And by 8 we were in the taxi into town. I promised myself that I would get straight in to openning sets. First bar we went to there was a 5 set. Though my friends are good, the thought of openning a 5 set would be a little over there heads. I said to the guys...

"Right, that table of girls over there... I'm going in.. quick give me a question to ask..."

I knew the question they were going to give me was never going to be sensible but at least it was a question and at least I would be talking...

So I approach this 5 set and open with:

"Hey guys, be and friends were just wondering, what do you think the average weight of a Polar bear is?" - Stupid I know but it go me in.

In hindsight, a 5 set was a bit too much for me too! It's hard to keep all 5 people interacting in the conversation. A 5 set quickly became a 3 set, then a 2 set. The girls were laughing and joking around. I was a good 3 min chat that made me look good to anyone watching! But my conversation went dry and my brain started to freeze up so I ejected gracefully!

I go over to mates. They look shocked.

Guys - "How did you get them laughing and joke over a question like that?"
Me - "ha! I don't know! But they reckon the average weight was 35 stone!"
Rudderman - "Hmmm I don't know whats happened to you. You! Approaching girls!..."

I smiled!

I approach around about 6 - 7 groups of girls. I won't go in to every single one of them. But here are some of my observations:

For me personally, I found it more confortable having a random opinion openner lined up ready to go. That way, I didn't have to think about what I saying. I just said it. That way, I didn't get brain freeze within the first 3 mins. Which is good! The downside is that if you get an unexpected answer, then I was thrown of course a bit. I used the "Fancy Dress party, Caveman or 80's theme, which one" routine. I became unstuck when on girl said you should do both... I didn't know how to respond to that bar saying "Wow! Great idea! I didn't think of that... how would that work?"

I had a prop! It was my scarf... crap I know! I wore it the whole night, long and just hanging over my neck unwrapped. But it got me attention. Girls nicking it or hooking then in with it. I worked and was smething else to do / talk about. (Some bint nicked it though! Stole it and wouldn't give it back! So be prepared for that!)

Also I ejected when I had nothing to say but not when I didn't... If I had something to say it, I would say it... even if I thought they want me to funk off. I worked because those frosty looked melted away as I jabbered on.

A tactic that I fould good if you are using canned openners. Many openners I got accused of using the worst chatup lines in the world. I would respond with:

"Eh.. I'm a smart guy and don't need to cheesey lines to chat to women"

Some of these approaches were real ramraids... absolute car crashes, with not much esculation but I didn't care. They were approaches. Which was better that nothing at all!

Looking forward to doing it again! Hooary for PUA!

LOL!

Good confidence!

Yeah, there's certain type of women who are so sad that they think it's an achievement for them to steal a cowboy hat / scarf / whatever prop and, crucially, offensively resist returning it. I witnessed it happening in front of me on Saturday; the guy was pissed and chasing this lass to get his weird headgear (springy ears) back.

Nicely played MB - it gets me thinking about my first proper night out with Hustler. I had crippling AA that night too, but once he got me talking to people I couldn't stop. It's really encouraging to see that you went and approached fearlessly; as far as attracting women goes this is half the battle over - the fact that you had the balls to stroll up and start a conversation sends out all kinds of good messages. It doesn't matter that you crashed and burned in some sets, there will always be sets like this. Getting exposure makes you immune to it after a while (says he who still has some fear of major blowouts!)

I'll be well up for a night this week, probably Friday. My dissertation may damn nearly kill me so I'll be up for blowing off some steam.

Top notch field report MB! I like a good long FR, they're fun.

It sounds like you had a pretty awesome night on Saturday. Its that feeling you get, when you realise that you can do this stuff, its just great.

As the Liverpool lads will testify - A few weeks ago I headed straight out sarging after going to a Liverpool match. I still had my red and grey striped scarf on. But the attention that got me was phoenomenal!

I've been opened by girls before, talking to me about my scarf. There have been so many sets where the girl has mentioned it, and I've immediately took it off and said 'Ok, ok, look you can wear it, but only for five minutes. After that I start charging 75p per extra minute.'

And then you've got the whole playful 'I want my scarf back you bitch' thing.

I've always slated peacocking. But only in its extreme form - I've got no desire to go out wearing a pink fluffy vest with eye shadow and black latex pants.

But I will wear a scarf to get me some attention. Which, I guess, is also a form of peacocking...

Good stuff mate, your opener

"Hey guys, be and friends were just wondering, what do you think the average weight of a Polar bear is?" - Stupid I know but it go me in.'

I prefer;

'Hey, do you know how much a polar bear weighs??'
Girl: No
'Me neither..... but it breaks the ice'

Ultimate cheese.

Is that intended to even go a step further (probably a step too far for some of the simple hotties) that the polar bear's weight could be so heavy that the BEAR itself breaks the ice (literally as well as metaphorically)?

PS sorry if all the rest of you were already in on this subtlety and I'm stating the beedin obvious

Yes it is just a subtle joke, granted for some women, too subtle perhaps.

I thought this was among the best known 'chat up lines' there are?

It is, along with perhaps one of the worst. I remember a non-community friend of mine telling it to me once and he burst into fits of laughter as he found it hilariously funny. I looked at him dumb-founded and asked if he'd ever tried it? After regaining his composure he uttered 'No'.

Seriously?!? I've never heard previous. Thankfully it seemed like the girls didn't either!