But you are from Nottingham! Are there not 2 women to every man there? That's what they keep telling me.

My tuppence worth on an interesting thread:

The lone girl - The dynamic of your approach from the off was not 'pick her up', but rather 'save her from that potential rapist'. Therefore there was an inevitable conflict when you then decided you'd like to kiss her yourself, as you felt this would have made your intentions appear insincere. In the event, I don't think she would have felt this and you probably played it too safe.

The girl with the boyfriend - this is a complex area, but ultimately I take the approach that, as long as I don't know the guy involved, I will offer myself to girls regardless of whether they have fellers or not. It is then up to the girl to decide whether or not she takes the offer up. I see no problem with this. On this occasion, if the boyfriend is around, perhaps bear in mind you might ket a kicking for it. If he isn't - well, let it ride.

The mate's sister - there is no one-size-fits-all solution to this, and it all hangs on how close you are to the mate in question. If you firmly value that friendship, then you'd be well advised to not try and pork his sister. If you wanted something a little more long term then there's no problem with that, but I can appreciate that having one-off fun with a friend's sister probably isn't the best idea. I value friends more than I value girls, and wouldn't like any girl to come between me and any of my friends. That said, I also don't have a sister of my own, and so can't really comment on the emotions involved. On this occasion, I think you did the right thing.


These are complicated areas though, and different variables in each will produce different results.

I hadn't thought about it like that. You're spot on CO!