Dear friends

After been going out with the PUAs for a while now. Here are my thoughts so far-

First of all, there is no such thing called PUAs in my opinion but having purposeless fun and go along with your feelings, if you feel there is a girl you connect with then rest of it should be naturally happening without any games, secondly believe or not you are NOT as important as you think, "try to offer not to take, try to share when you don't have much", because you were there to have fun and share the fun with others not to impress anybody, the only way to impress people is to talk to them about THEM not YOU, if you don't get it, imagine you are the person you talk to, have an internal dialog and of course Kinos & humor would help massively, and finally don't you EVER use your disadvantage to compare others' advantage because you are unique you shine in many other ways, those guys gets laid or whatever doesn't mean they are happier or better in the game or elsewhere than you, they also have their own puzzles to solve just like everybody else. In fact this whole Pick Up things reflects the amount of happiness you having in your life, a guy who is comfortable just being himself, happy just being way he is obviously become attractive, why? because everybody not just girls can relax with him and enjoy his real personality without feeling awkhard or pressured by someone who's having a purpose.

Last thing to say from my experience, get laid is not the whole point, is not even something worth to mention & be proud of but have a ridiculous and purposeless fun with your friends on a night-out as well as in life is, keep it simple, love yourself & others and become a person with a big heart, accepting & comfortable just being the way you are then you will find people include girls walk alongside with you and that's something so-called PUAs can't achieve.

In here I want to take this opportunity to thank Jaz, Red and other good people I met in the forum, I learn & enjoy a lot from you lot. Especially Jaz who has been so open, helpful and a good friend.

Respect,

Unique

Great Post! Sounds similar to what I saw in The Blueprint! good stuff, every newbie should read this.

Mate you are AWESOME!

I wish everybody would be able get "it" as quickly as you have. Keep up the good work (and keep coming out).

The Illusive Obvious!

This post is pretty much bang on the money, there is only one thing which I would alter/disagree slightly on this which is:

"the only way to impress people is to talk to them about THEM not YOU, if you don't get it, imagine you are the person you talk to"

I guess it depends on how this interpreted but something I tried today (thanks to some RSD and Juggler, but I do anyway, just noticed it and did it more today) with female friends was, in very positive non arrogant way making direct statements of whatever I was thinking and deliberately not agree with their statements for the sake of it or asking too many questions about them. The result was both girls opened up to me loads relating themselves to my statements, asking me lots of questions and we had a great vibe for the shopping trip and I oozed value like a mutha fucker. If you've seen RSD or read jugglers ebook you'll see the importance of this, if you haven't I would highly recommend both.

I wouldn't deliberately not agree with their statements, what for? Just be honest with your answer but make sure your opinions stays positive most of the time cos that creates good feelings towards the girls indirectly become attractions. At same time it's IOI to have girls asking you questions so don't worry it's all good. Just Relax & lay back enjoying the conversation it shouldn't be a hard work if it does, magine you are the person you talk to.

Hey, yea wasn't deliberately disagreeing, was purposely not agreeing for the sake of it or to try and be the guy that relates (something I used do a lot). I'll explain. The point I'm making is I'd rather she is drawn into my reality and agreeing with my statements than vice versa. On a micro level when you ask a girl questions your taking value from her, like an interview.
If you continually agree with her statements and relate yourself to them you are showing she has a stronger reality and yours is so weak you have to relate it hers (unless everything she actually says is completely and honestly matches your views). When your giving statements your offering a piece of yourself and they will try to relate themselves to it. Girls are more attracted when they relate to your values, not when you relate to theirs. Most peoples values are fickle and if you have a strong enough values, they will relates to yours. A girl will have boys relate to her values all the time it's not unique and it's not attractive, she wants to find a guy with strong values and confidence that she can relate herself to. Your right though be completely honest and be yourself.

An example:

She says: I love Classical music.

Instead of trying to think of a conversation on classical music which is her reality I would rather she is relating to what I like.

Old Me: I went and watched some classical music when I was at school, It was pretty good, I would like to see some again. What famous composers do you like?

New Me: That's cool. I like Old School Hip-Hop. I like it because this, this and this.

People get sucked into whoever has the strongest reality, you want to be sucking people into your reality, not getting sucked into theirs. If this comes across as complete gibberish, watch the two things I mentioned earlier RSD and juggler explain it really well.

Mate

Respects for your reply I found it very interesting actually. It's great to see that you have put in a lot of efforts to attract girls. I don't mean to agree what she says to you as I said it before the conversation should stay positive & bring good feelings, if your disagreement does the same then go for it! so She says: I love Classical music.That's cool. I like Old School Hip-Hop. I like it because this, this and this. That's fine as long as you have something awsome to say about Old school Hip-Hop that brings good&positive feelings and do it all the time, otherwise the conversation will be hard going unless she's interested in Hip-Hop music too. Cos down the line we need to be natural and by being natural you can go a long way. If the same question asked to me, I will say " wow cool I don't see many girls can fully appreciate this kind of music in your age group, so how come you choose Classical music?" you can imagine this line brought a good feeling and leads more good feelings to come or she wouldn't say she loves it.

I hope this make sense to you mate. But of course having strongest reality makes sense too as long as you can be as natural as someone like Russell Brand but even he knows that "Russell Brand" isn't the real him I'm sure he is a sincere man off the stage. Everything I posted here is through my real life experience and since then I started enjoying the journey of life more than just picking up girls in fact I pick up everyone. But having said that everyone has their own ways to achieve their goals. Honestly I hope you can just get a grasp of my words will be enough and give it a try but at the same time believe yourself and accept the way you are. If having a strong reality makes you comfortable and attractive then go for it!! I'm sure you can be just as good as anybody else in the field.

It's not about being the centre of attention or the funniest person in the room; it's about engaging with other people on their terms and making them comfortable enough to invite you into their lives. - Nick Vujicic

It's not just a pick-up it's a journey of life.

All the best,
谢谢

Unique

awesome post is awesome

Much respect for your reply. Ye, this is just something to think about, it shouldn't dictate everything you do and say, being natural and true to yourself is the most important thing. The thing that is strange through, it you try to please others and relate to them for their sake, it doesn't work, it's needy. It's when you do it for yourself that it does. Just think of that guy who agrees with everything you say and but doesn't show his own true opinions and compare him to someone, who respects what you say, but disagree's and shares his personal thoughts on it. The first guy is trying hardest to build rapport and build connections, but being least true to himself and this shows through.

Another example is if a girls says some nonsense rubbish to me in a club like "ooohh I have a hamster called Jimmy, he's cute and fluffy, I love fluffy things" that does not relate to me, pretending it does and talking about it would be changing what I expect from good conversation and show that I'm just trying to please her. By saying my honest thoughts, which might be "why are you telling me this, we're in a club, lets party", I am more authentic to my true self and as a result more attractive.

I would argue that if a girl gives you a piece of information such as "I love classical music", she is sharing something with you and to ask another question on it is asking her to share something else with you which is effectively taking. By sharing something back "such as I like hip hop" you are equalling out the getting to know each other sharing process and giving something back. It's nicer to give than to take. If you both have strong values you can bond over your differences.
The conversation on hip hop has as much chance of dying as the one classical music and can be changed at any time, regardless. The difference is she's probably had lots interesting conversations about classical music before because it's her reality, whereas hip hop is more likely to be a new and interesting topic to talk about.

I understand the journey, I myself am on a similar road, I like talking to people opening myself up to the world and making connections.