It seems quite apropriate that I am posting this today of all days, but it's actually just a coincidence.

I haven't written any field reports for quite a while and this is why: Things have progressed quite a lot, to say the least, with my Austrian friend and it's looking like we might well be together now.

She has told me that she thinks she is in love with me and has started referring to me as her "boyfriend". We have loads of laughs, there is plenty of passion, and the sex is fantastic.

Getting to this stage has not been a walk in the park; in fact it's been about as smooth as a bear's arse. As all of you who have been following this know, she was living with another guy who she was seeing and who was in love with her. Feelings were not reciprocated and then she met me.

I was happy enough to have her as a fb at first and I was in no way jealous of the other guy; the lover is seldom jealous of the provider.

Feelings have just progressed between us though, as they have a tendency of doing. When I introduced her to my friends they asked me if she was my gf and I replied, "No, she is my friend with benefits."

Immediately, she told me, "I don't like that," to which I replied, "Well you know what you need to do if you want a promotion." (I'd already told her that if she wanted to be my gf then she would have to move out of that house).

To my surprise, she actually agreed to do it and I thought fuck, I'm actually going to have to stick to my word now.

Obviously, it was never going to be easy. Having met women, I honestly thought that there was a good chance she would change her mind at the last minute. (She was always banging on about how much she loved that house and the area.)

The other guy knew about me already but it can't have been easy for either of them. She feels very guilty and I am sure he is gutted.

A couple of days, before she was due to move out, emotions were running high and something happened between them again but she owned up to it. I was pissed off about it at first, still am a bit, but I guess it's par for the course. I'm sure I'm not feeling anwhere near as bad as he is. I guess we shouldn't have started anything until she had already moved out.

She started asking me what I had been up to with women, since I'd met her, so I came clean about the five other women I've fucked and the others that I've snogged. She was quite upset about it, even though she's got no right to be, seeing as we were not "going out".

Anyway, she has now fully moved into her new apartment, and I take that as quite a big gesture; so this seems to be a good point to start from. Can I trust her though? Having said that, I've never trusted ANY woman, so what's the difference?

Fuck it, I guess it's gotta be worth a shot. It's better to regret something that you did, than something that you didn't do.

Good luck dude

Doesn't sound to me like you're proper in love with her, so just don't go doing anything silly. Personally I'd try to keep her as a FB

I dig her, I'm just not in the habit of handing my heart out on a plate, like so many guys do when they get with a pretty girl.

If you want to hit that true emotional connection you have got to open up, dont be afraid.

make she sounds like a full package for you, im of the same breed, not just handin my heart on a plate...

BE FUCKING WARNED, if u wait to tell her u love her too long she will start to resent you... by which time she will fuck u off in her head. u will lose her

it wont be pretty!!!

there is definatly a gap between her sayin it an u, or her feelin it an u sayin it!!

thats so pua. 'how many other girls you been with whilst we were having sex?' She probably expected one other. 'five and i've kissed a load of other ones as well' Lol Player

things that jump out in my mind as retarded

''five and i've kissed a load of other ones as well'
-- I think anyone with any sense would have told you to do one

how long was she with this other guy? -- sounds like she has jumped from one full on relationship into - soon to be another one with no breathing space

not healthy

Four out of those five happened before I had slept with her, when we were just making out etc. She knows that. The other happened shortly after the first time I had slept with her but she was still seeing this other guy, so she knows now, what's good for one is good for the other and she doesn't want me with anyone else.

She was never in a full on relationship with said guy. He was her flat mate and they slept together on occassion. This since last September. He wanted more, she didn't. I know this through other people too, not just her. It's being gossiped about amongst the international community in Palermo right now.

But everyone, that sees us together, keeps telling me that it's obvious that she is really into me. People used to tell me before we got together what a great couple we'd make.

His friends are now ignoring her in the street and giving us dirty looks etc... all that nonsense. I think it's immature. I remember years ago, when I lived in Ireland, I was with an Italian girl for a year and a half. She went back to Italy for the summer and we split up.

I was with other girls while she was away but when she came back I fell in love with her again and wanted to get back with her. She would have sex with me and considered it for a while but in the end she chose another guy. I was gutted for a couple of days but then found myself someone else. I moved on, got over it.

This girl is now married to the guy that she chose over me. I am fine with that, we are still friends. None of my mates give them any shit and I wouldn't want them to. Life is like that sometimes.

I've made out with a girl before to see her snogging with another guy the next day, who was part of my social circle. I just said, "Whatever dude, clearly she prefers you, go for it!"

I've even had a girl (that I didn't love) sleep with one of my best mates after splitting up with me to make me jealous. He had been pissed out of his mind and was extremely sorry for what he had done, calling me constantly in tears.

I didn't speak to him for nearly two years and then beat the shit out of him when I saw him again (only blows to the body though/none to the head). Believe it or not we are best of mates again. Forgiving him was one of the best things I ever did.

I have been both the winner and the loser before in these situations and I have learned not to take it personally, it's all just par for the course. Some of the things that we take the most personally in life are actually the most general.

Another one of my best friends met a girl who had a bf at the time but she was not in love with him. She met my mate, they fell in love and have been together over 12 years, five of them married.

The old friends of the guy she had been with, for like two or three months prior to meeting my mate, still give them dirty looks in the street; pathetic.

Life is not a bed of roses and anybody who thinks that it is, or that it can be, is deluded and will be sorely dissapointed. Having said this, life is interspersed with many beautiful moments and happy surprises. If something possitive can come out of something painful then it has not all been for nothing.

midas... ur posts are getting long on the subject.

like ur trying to convince someone.... perhaps ur tryin to convince urself mate, and if u are U NEED TO HAVE A SERIOUS THINK!!! a relationship should start with a convincer.

THIS WAS UR QUOTE: " Can I trust her though? Having said that, I've never trusted ANY woman, so what's the difference?"

thie difference is you dont trust her coz its her & not coz she is generally a woman... so you dont trust her double..

this question says to me, ur gonna have a bigger issue than normal for trust. and a relationship where ur "SUFFERING" from mis-trust is not worth it

so where i you... id fuck it off... but you wont... but you should