I had a fairly disapointing weekend.

Friday I met up with a couple of other board members, NewJackSwagger and gamechanger for the first time. We went to Oxygen bar in leiceter square. We stayed there for a little bit and didn't really talk to any of the girls, there weren't many. Okay well one said something to me and I couldn't understand here and I said "Are you russian" or something but she was pretty pissed and I didn't persue it.


Then gamechanger (new forum member) went home. (He had to catch the last train - nice to meet you, if you're reading this!).

Me and JLW then went to metro club (I think it was caused) and stood around looking at people dancing. I really wasn't feeling any good vibe and we danced for a bit and ended up going home.

Saturday I went out with Clapham with my brother and a couple of friends and it was pretty bad. The only time we actually spoke to anyone was when I went out to smoke. There was one girl who was asking about what me and my friend did. She said "let me guess" she guessed my friend worked in a trade and I looked like I worked in the city, which was wrong but I used too. She also asked what I did and although I have a decent job I really don't want to be talking shop when I'm out.

I do feel pretty disapointed after how much better it was the last time I went out where I could talk to anyone in the club and felt super in state. This weekend it just wasn't happening.

I think some reasons for this are I haven't done much exercise this week and also I put off going on a mountain bike rider on Saturday which I should have kept too.

One of the most important things was I just wasn't having fun. I feel that maybe if we were in a bigger group we would have had more fun and pushed ourselves more.

Things can only get better as D:ream once said.

Mark

Some nights you're on and some you're not! Don;t feel bad, happens to everyone but dont make excuses, I still make them but will approach. Sometimes you got to think "fuck it, lets get blown out" and you approach and it goes well or it doesn;t but don;t worry about it.

You were in Leicester Sq? I bet there were girls outside. I would usually open girls on the street between bars. Last night I was out with one of my best wings in Oxford and he was doing some crazy shit, At first I was feeling uncomfortable but after a while I reaslly got into my groove and was getting warmed up!

So don't give up! Don;t worry about getting blown out or running out of things to talk about. This is not nbearly as bad as just standing there and going home regretting not approaching. Having fun is important, how can you make it more fun for yourself? Tell jokes, do silly crazy impressions with your friends/wings, do silly things which will also help you get in state!

It seems that you have something in common with Tony Blair as a D:ream fan.

Nice to meet you on Friday & sorry to see you didn't have much fun.

At least I'm pleased that I made it out, 70% of success is turning up as they say.

Yea this has happend to me before. Ive never really gone out and not approached anyone, but ive gone out and got blown out alot. The key is believing, believe that your the best frigin guy in the place and any woman should be privlidged if you speak to them. You are the prize! however saying that sometimes your emotions just dont let you feel this... a way to get yourself into that positive state is to speak to guys first, meet all the guys there and shake there hands n shit! this will show you have a high social status and also make you feel like you have a high social status, thus when you approach a woman this energy positive energy will show! Take control of the men and you will have control of the woman!

AJay

Good advice AJay, I'm sure if I had warmed up like that it would have gone better. I also went to the gym today and feel a million times better about this, funny what a little exercise can do for your mood.

Mark