I was chatting with this girl on POF for last couple of weeks. After chatting with her for few times i ask her out for a drink but she told me that she is not sure if she wants to. After that we continue chatting and added each other on Facebook. Until this moment she was quiet reluctant to give me her phone number. Last Sunday i chatted with her briefly but after that ignored her on the Facebook. Later that evening she text me(i gave her my number earlier) and we end up meeting but no kiss and nothing sexual. Same day when she got back she text me until 2 in the morning. we met next day as well. When i met her i always neg her and there was lot of banter going on. But after the second meet(last Monday) she did'nt text and when i text her once she gave me a lame excuse for not replying. I just wrote nevermind and stop it there. After our second meeting i have the feeling that i over do the nagging thing and i should have invest that time making rapport with her. Since then we see each other on Facebook but neither one of us contacted or message. She can also see that im on-line on POF as well. I deleted her number after the second meeting. Today she erased me as a friend from Facebook.

I know where i went wrong, it is the nagging part which i did it wrong. If any of you figure out any other obvious mistake please let us know.

you went wrong on being a pussy and this all sounded like something pretty weird. you decided to meet up with her... to do what? ill tell you what, to atleast try and make out with her. take some fucking action.

then when shes texting you til 2AM after your first date. stop trying to build some rappot and try and make some progression. if shes texting you til 2AM and its not sexual, then trust me mate you've built up too much rappot and you're texting like a little bitch. for me, girls text til 2AM to eachother. guys flirt and sexually text til 2AM with girls... or they just phone her.

if you're just constantly dissing/negging her, then you're immature/stupid. negging = teasing = flirting. if your negging is not that, then you're doing it wrong. fuck this mystery/style disarm and lower her space shields bullshit.

she probably got bored because you were showing no sexual intent/direction. you became boring. you're on her FB, she has no links with you other than POF so she hits delete. shes either deleting you to get your attention or most likely, shes deleting you cos shes now bored and doesn't want to know (and maybe shes got another guy shes seeing probably from POF who made his move earlier so you're now irrelevant).

you could have went wrong on your negging/nagging.. whatever u wanna call it. but thats only a small thing. the big picture is you didnt progress shit fast enough. im still getting to grips with it but trust me, pussy footing around does NOTHING. good looking girls have plenty of options and get bored easily. playing the slow/gay game is stupid.

Thanks for your comment here aofelix. Just for argument sake if she hit delete for getting attention. what should be my next step then?

Personally im thinking of not taking any move at all and wait for her response.

i have too much pride to be arsed... but if u dont give a shit, then say to her why did you delete me before we go get drunk together and take you back to mine? lol. this is more of a "fuck it" message than a key to success.

example my mate had macked a girl the night before but forgot her name. had her phone number in his phone so after a few texts, asks for her facebook. she decides to play hard to get and not reply or maybe she wasn't arsed enough to give him her FB. 10 hours later no reply so i was like mate just fuck it, send "come on i need your FB quickly becuse i can't remember your name and i need see if you're hot.". she instantly replied saying "oii you're pretty eager that many messages in a row! you don't remember my name? my names blahblah, you can judge, whats yours?"

the logic in sending that text if u want to break it down is:
scenario 1: he doesnt chase her. she doesn't reply to his text. its finished its over.
scenario 2: he does chase her. he replies. he bangs her (he got a bj)
scenario 3: he does chase her. she doesn't reply. its finished... e.g. scenario 1.

but i can tell by your post you care too much so leave it. until you don't give a shit, you shouldn't do that kind of shit cos it will hurt your feelings further if she doesn't reply to your text and you'll probably do some gay shit like check your phone every hour (we all do it at one point, its cool )

This.

No quicker way to get into the FriendZone than showing no intent.....

Then if you are in said FriendZone but offering no value (e.g. no intent but lots of negging?) then unfortunately she will kiss your ass goodbye. Take this as a lesson learned!

I tend to agree with most of aofelix comments.

In summary where did I fuck it up.

By all means neg her but turn it sexual as well and this should start with Kino

Kino her within the first 30 seconds of meeting her and keep up the pace at every opportunity for example grab her hand lead her across the road, let it go, hand on lower back lead her into bar, take it away etc, etc there must be 50 ways to achieve kino. Google them

Your not meeting a friend you're meeting a girl you wanna fuck, turn it sexual by not doing so she thinks you're not up to it or not interested, she's not psychic, you have to give her clear intention.

Look you fucked this one up, let it go but don't make the same mistake again.

What would you rather be doing holding your phone and texting her or holding her tits and kissing her?