Been having a dry spell of hardly any closes and watching while others get numbers and even sex. Although this makes me jealous as hell it also motivates me to go out more and push myself, so thanks to all you guys who got out there over the weekend and approached women.


So today after work I decide to go to Reading as its another town near to me, good shopping centre and can be busy at certain times but you have to know when to go. Did a warm approach on the street just by complimenting a girl on her shoes but din;t hook, but no matter.

Walking round I decide to get some food then head to Waterstones. What I love about bookshops is they are quiet and you don;t need openers. Because bookshops have natural props for you to use to open with.

I noticed her as I came in and needed the toilet anyway so upon seeing her I go to the toilet first. I kinda knew she would still be there but in any case if not doesn't matter, plenty more women about. When I get out I get inside my head thinking of things I can use but sometimes you just have to trust yourself enough to come up with the goods on the spot. Without anything rehearsed I just stand next to her and she moves a little as I pick up a book. She apologises for being in the way and I jump into action using this as a cue to open her.

Her: "Sorry was just looking for a book"
Me: She already had a book in her hand "I do hope you're going to buy that, you're costing this shop money you know" playful banter
I start asking her what books she likes and she asks me questions too. Its all light but I see she is comfortable with me being there so we chat for a little bit.

Me: "You always dress like that or you going to a party?"She has this sexy low cut dress with a cardigan and has massive tits!
Her: "I just feel like dressing up sometimes"
Build some rapport with her by telling her where I'm from but with some obvious qualifying like when I told her my mum is from Bolivia and I said "You're only saying that you know where it is because not many people do"

Turns out she is here on a working holiday as a Nanny. Can't remember every detail but I suggested we go for coffee. "hey I'm going for coffee, want to join me?" rather than "ant to go for a coffee?" Not everything here is amazing but I consider myself to be calm, have good body language, employing a little James Bond non verbals. She complies and we go Dutch. I lead her to a table where we chat, banter with her misinterpret what she says to make it look sexual, funny, again more rapport then breaking rapport, disqualifying myself a little to show abundance as well as non neediness.

After an hour or so and the funny thing is theres this woman I gamed a while back on the table behind me, I decide to take her out for a little walk. Maybe I'm paranoid but I swear to God I felt like the staff were checking up on me pretending like they were sorting books out. I don;t really care because we were enjoying each other's company, she as so open and told me a lot of personal stuff including when she lost her virginity. Infact I didn't have to do much at all because she was investing enough, just actively listening, breaking rapport connecting.

As we were walking back to the station I say to her "so you always pick up guys in bookshops" to which she says "You're the first" I kissed her on the cheek but I am sure I can kiss close her next time I see her

Now usually I text a girl a couple of hours later but she just text me!

investing, qualifying??? this is all crap... u need to get past all these words & terms & just enjoy peoples company!

Thanks Phil I do enjoy peoples company as I enjoyed hers. Just using these terms for the beginners, breaking down stuff so they can learn.

Have a nice day

When we are with a girl we all invest and disqualify. Most of the time we do it unconsciously without even realising. When you are a newbie it is important skill to learn.

i was thinking a simalir thing

why even go out specifically to pull girls -- in my mind you have already set the scene for failure by needing to go out - ok you may have been relatively successful but your energy will be all wrong if you are going out specifically to pull girls

thats just what i think anyway

Not just sometimes!

Good work diving in on the insta-date.