Hi guys,

well I really didn't feel like goingbout tonight and was feeling pretty sick of game. I actually had one of the best nights out tonight with Darood nova hustler sinstyle and tom. It was great just to get on a dance floor and boogie!

Anyway after having a chat with Darood I'm going to have next week off just to gather my thoughts and do a bit of Reading. I did try lots of stuff over the weekend, direct opening (you have nice hair), random statment of fact (you're tall), opinion openers, even just grabed a girl round the waste on the dance floor; Sweet FA was working. This is the reason for the break as i'm loosing beleif that this stuff is will work. I'll see you out in a couple of weeks hopfully.

Retro

Just tagging on the end of this. Being out with Nova, tom and hustler for the 1st time this weekend. Really cool guys, had a great time hanging with them and i look forward to doing it again.

Congratulations brother. You now get it. Just chill with your boys and have fun.

sometimes i think it would be good just for some of the pua boys to sit down and have a laugh all night. not move venues because there are no sets etc.

retro you into kareoke? i found a classy bar man that i well wanna visit.

It was a good night out I didn't do much either I was a bit drained but it was cool to just hang out. I think i'm going to give it a miss next week too I haven't felt too good this week and I think it's all the going out drinking I think I need to recharge my batteries.

You want to visit a classy barman! Where do you want to visit him in the toilets? (yes i'm so mature)

lol.

tom im gonna rape u.

I'm up for a little of that.. Not this weekend though, i'm going to do what i always have been doing (about 6 months ago) and going back to playing video games

Maybe the weekend after i'll have a venture out if i feel up to it, but at the moment i've kind of had a fill of going out as its the same result, no matter what the approach / technique deployed.

Retro

Don't be dishearten man, I'm run down after so many weekends out, I need to get my energy and drive back.

Have you thought about trying some day game?
You're after a long term relationship so going out on the weekend might not be the best place to find someone who is after that too.
I'm not very good at day game but I think it'll more likely lead to a stable relationship rather than on a night out when girls are drunk and expecting to be chatted up.
You'll have a bigger choice of venues too, so you can go somewhere where you know girls who like similar stuff to you go.

Retro - I'd bit disappointed if you knocked self-development in this area on the head.

Bit of time off might help, but you shouldn't give up. Did you not think about doing a boot camp?

You know some guys do 1-on-1s too - people who are good at teaching.

Remember that you are now opening sets in different ways and such. That is progress. I think eventually you start to get a greater overall picture of how attraction works with experience.

Also, you have to ask are you really being flexible enough to learn? You seem at times reluctant to do things; maybe you have a bit of stubbornness left in you? When I first started, I would try to do anything just to try it. Growing the process and not the outcome. A few times I've asked you to open and you haven't. Don't take this personally - I'm trying to help because I think you're a good guy.

I think internet game is probably good for LTR women (the girls I knew in my last work were always on about this). But using it for anything else and I liken it to cheating (note: please don't discuss, opinion only)

Picking up girls never gets above 2nd place in terms of my priorities on a night out. 1st and foremost I am out to have fun with my friends. I always have fun so every night is a success.

A lot of the guys here are close friends and we regularly spend time doing non-pu shit. Like me destroying you all at Table Tennis. Chatting to girls is fun and is a unifying factor, but it doesn't have to dominate your life. If you're a cool guy who does cool shit, you'll be hotter to girls automatically.



If you are out trying different methods and techniques all the time, you need a little self-examination. Ignore all the differences and identify the constants. If nothing is working, it is usually because there is at least one common denominator A theme that runs throught all your actions. Identify these and make positive changes in these areas.

I'm a firm believer that the best way to know if you come across well is to open with some mad shit e.g. "Variety badgers drink cranberry juice" or "I have a pretty penis" etc. If you can hook sets with crazy shit, it is because your state, beliefs and body language are good. If you can't hook sets with this kind of stuff, then you need to work on those same fundamentals.

Forget all the liguistic strategies, magpie adornments and entertaining performance pieces. These are just more and more layers of conditioning that hide the raw attractiveness of the man inside. Focus on being a bad-ass mutha fucka instead. Work on removing limiting beliefs, increasing social comfort, self-trust etc. Don't add more layers of conditioning, tear the layers away until that raw attractiveness is revealed. You know you are a bad-ass mutha fucka. Everyone has been a bad-ass mutha fucka at least once in their life and it wasn't anything but you acting without constraint or affectation. It's all in there, you just need to let it out.


Peace,

kowalski

retro, i still remeber that 2 set that we had, where we were discussing whether or not we could get someone to ride the wooden horse in lamars, and you opened with that question to one of the girls.

it was a great set, we were talking for ages. you were probably the second happiest i have ever seen you (the first involved the karate kid and a mock fight with our furry friend)

i think next time me and you are out we should try and open some 2 sets like that. or maybe you should try opening some 2 sets with some of the other wings. you might already do this i am not sure. opening on your own requires a lot of x y z as kowalski has pointed out.

have a weekend off, play your video games (i was addicted to quake 3 i can relate), but i hope you go through the weekend wanting to get out and have a go and this will make you refreshed for the next week.


stay cool man, dont stress, everything is supposidly perfect the way it is (so say the top spiritual gurus)