Hey guys,

So this is the story, I met this girl last year and we were sending each other emails as I was travelling. We got to know each other pretty well over emails and we created a connection, alot about our history and things and interests and so on...

And we met up and things were going great, saw each other and spoke to each other alot. But I became an AFC and became to obssessed over this bird. Eventually driving her away. I was too needy and definetly not acting like an Alpha male, writing letters to her and that and giving her presents but none of that shit worked, it didn't demonstrate value, I know that now. I need to get the girl to demonstrate her value to me!

She has now unfriended me from FaceBook and says she doesn't want to see me anytime soon but wants to see what happens in the future and let the. friendship come back naturally.

I pretty much had the manual to get into her pants over the emails but made school boy errors and didnt listen properly.

Shit happens, but I want to know how to get another shot and get this girl?

Whats the game plan guys?

I'm no expert but I'd forget about her and move on. You've learnt some vital lessons.

You have lost her, the only remote chance of getting her back is to let her go and move on, hard i know.
whats the saying--somtimes in order to get somone back youve got to let them go.
Ive had girls i cut loose who messed my head up get back in touch over a year later and ive got it back on with them on my terms.

The fundamental mistake in my eyes you made was letting this develop over sustained correspondance at a distance,

Go make out with 12 girls...

What you're done is create a sexless long distance 'relationship' with her, which now (being made apparent by your facebook unfriending) you've been dumped from.

Like any relationship - official or otherwise - scars take time to heal, but let's be honest, no-one really ever wants to get back with an 'ex'.

When she says "give it time for the friendship to grow back", I hate to be brutal but what she's really saying is "I'm trying to let you down gently by making you think that you may have a shot in the future but really I'm hoping that with time you'll forget about me"

As per the advice you've already been given I'd have to agree. It's time to learn from your mistakes and move on to bigger and better things

There's a consensus growing here: forget about the girl. I've just recently gone through a breakup myself: I'm now over her, and I tell you - I feel fuckin great about it.

Lets face it, most of us are on this forum because at some point in our lives we realised that there was something wrong with our game - that we were shit at pulling birds. So it's only natural to become needy over one chick, and feel a huge sense of loss when that neediness fucks it up.

After just a few weeks of gaming, i've realised that there really is (as Tebbs' signature says) 'always 6 more round the corner...'

Much love,

Craigus

i dont believe its over just yet, IMO

u can still get her back..

If you manage to develop the skills needed to get her back, they would be better used elsewhere on the 1000's of hotter girls in the world.

I agree completely with BCB, she was letting you down gently, It aint gonna happen and that's a good thing because it gives you the opportunity to explore pastures new.

Delete all corresspondance you have saved on your computer from her. You will feel reborn.

Welcome to the community!