Hi guys, I'm quite new to all this and all I have done is read a few things on this forum. I'm 17 so I guess quite young but I have NEVER done anything with a girl. Not kissed had sex, or even had a girlfriend.

I think I am quite ugly and with a skinny body without much muscle. I'm scared of talking to girls and don't ever really know what to say, often leading to awkward silences and I have a bad monotonous voice. Often get scared of women and even men who I perceive as like socially accepted.

I feel I am worse than everyone, and don't really have much of a social life, not getting invited out much. I'm here to try and learn and improve my life as well as success with women. Appreciate any help I get

wake up tomorow, and try & offend as many people as u can in one day!!!

wake up the next day.... ur still here... but different

I don't get what you mean? Won't that make even less people like me? I don't have a lot of friends btw

“You are today where your thoughts have brought you;
you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you." – James Allen

Try to give yourself a break there Rafab, you don't deserve the negative self talk.

Welcome.

PS

ok ... try somethin for me! dont offend ur friends... when ur out & about, make sure for the next week....

say the first thing that comes into ur head...


so if u see someone with a stupid had! say... what a stupid hat.

just be obnoxious... learn to deal with confrontation ... it should help u to care less about what people think when u realise

IT DONT MATTER!!! its all about ur fear! u mayswell be dead if carry on as u r, so SNAP THE FUCK OUT OF IT!! u cant carry on like tha... just be obnoxious for a week....

when u go back to normal! u will notice urself express urself more freely

ergo.. u will care less of opinions

ergo... will get cooler

ergo... shit will sort itself out!!! do me a favour, say FUCK IT!!! ill try it

then in the mornin think FUCK IT

and just keep sayin it!!! life is piss mate... its only as hard as u let it be

Totally true what Phil says here...its amazing what you can get away with if you don't worry about it and, as Nike says, "just do it".

Basically push the negative talk out of your head, read up on some of the stuff here and go out there with a smile on your face and some clear objectives. If you do all that the girls will notice.

Phil's right. Spent most of my life keeping my head down and sitting on the fence. No matter how hard I try I can't seem to get over worrying over what other people think of me. I'm not in control of my reality. =/