How many times while in the pursuit of atractive women do many guys forget about the small things they are dong right and only focus on the negative. And this is not just in pick up but life too. We are all prone to this in many ways. You apply for a job you really want and curse yourself for not getting it but atleast you got to the interview stage.

Many guys will approach a girl, they may see failure if they don't get the girl to stop, or they don;t get any kind of contact details. The mere act of approaching a stranger is a very brave thing, whether you get the results you want or not. There are still a lof of guys suffering from extreme lack of confidence who cannot do this. Even if you just attempt going for the number or a makeout, atleast you tried. You can't win the lottery if you don't enter.

I think many of us look for the quick fix, the short cuts to get to where we want to be and forget to enjoy the little happy positive moments. I dont like to look at this like a race but more a Marathon. I am starting to become happy my progress no matter how slow. So what if I meet people who have been doing this half the time with more results, I am not here to compete with anyone. If we adopt this mindset then we are all set for failure. But thats not to say we can't be motivated by others.

If you set small specific acheivable goals you will be far happier than if you set unrealistic ones that are too high. Many people who start learning pick up may begin to envy others who are getting laid loads but we all progress at different rates and learn at different speed too. I remember at School Maths being my worst subject but other people could pick it up no problem. This does not mean you're stupid but merely have a different talents and learn skills in different ways.

Many years ago I used to be petrified to even ask for a ticket on a bus or make my own hair or medical appointments. Thinking how easily this comes to me now, its a miracle and something to be proud of. At school my teacher made us record our achievements, no matter how big or small they were. At the time I didn;t see a use for this but I think its useful especially if you are having moments of depression about where your life is going or you feel inadequate. But the truth is no one is useless or inadequate, we are all unique and special in our own ways. We are all wonderful people, if only we allow ourselves to be.


Its so easy for people to give up at the slightest minor hurdle and think that its too much effort. Don't work harder, work smarter! There is always a solution to every problem and nothing is impossble if you let it. What some people view as success, others may see differently. Some people may find it hard to leave their house but many of us take this for granted. Some people would think nothing of asking a complete stranger for directions but there are many people who are too scared even to say one word.

The problem for many guy when starting out is they feel they need to come up with clever lines to win the girl, is utter bullshit! Just saying "hi, hows your night going?" can blow open a conversation. But at that early stage of their learning they would consider it lame so stay silent. Staying silent would be failure but I think just starting a random conversation, even if its about the freaking weather would be better than nothing. And if you give yourself permission, you can look at that as success regardless whether you got her number or into her pants.

This kind of stuff needs to be said more i reckon. I mean even though comparison to others is not always a good thing, how many people do you know who would see a girl they like and shoot straight over to talk to them?

I might get blown out 4 times but on that 5th time it will hook, if you keep doing it it WILL hook.

I can't even tell you the amount of times ive been anxious to simply talk to someone, went and did it, and then came away thinking 'what's the big deal?' The fact of the matter is that most people, including the girls who might look bitchy, are friendly and enjoy it when someone comes to interact in a fun way. So you might not necessarily come away with a number or whatever, but does that mean the interaction is a failure? Hell no!!! There are still a number of posotive outcomes:

1) You have potentially planted a seed if you see them again in a different venue/different night

2) They may have friends to introduce you too

3) You have generated another reference experience that tells your mind that you are social and thart approaching is a good thing

4) It builds your state and momentum for the day/night

So yeah small sucesses add up and they can only create bigger sucesses.

Nice!!