I need some advice of what to do with an some girl that keeps annoyingly flaking on me!
I've been texting some girl for a while now (PD2G if you've read my field reports).
She keeps asking me to meet up with her but everytime we arrange for to do something, when the day comes she blows me out with some lame excuse! This has happened 4 times now.
I think it is down to her being nervous or scared as whenever i see her when she's out with friends and she's drunk, she keeps inviting me back to her place at the end of the night (which the last 2 times i've had to decline)! The time before that i got LMR!
Whenever she blows me out, i do the standard thing of showing that it doesn't bother me, etc, which it doesn't usually as i've always got something else to do but how many times can i let her get away with this?
I've been promised sex from her so many times now and she just hasn't delivered, lol!

She now wants everyone to go out together on Saturday and get drunk!
I think it's annoying me more because the weekends are the only real time i get to practise opening sets and if she's about I won't be able to get the best of both worlds it'll be one or the other!

I really feel like just blowing her out for good and moving on but am feeling that it'd have been a complete waste of my time and energy over the last couple of months if i don't get my end away beforehand!

Say you'll meet her some other night like Friday, you have stuff to do (which you do) and you can't be jumping through her hoops all the time. If she says she can only make Saturday then tell her she always cancels so you are not cancelling your plans for someone that's unreliable.

It sounds like she likes you but you can't let her keep doing this to you because it will only get worse as she knows she can get away with it. Maybe she doesn't do it on purpose to annoy you but if she gets scared or nervous she knows she can back out and you'll still be there the next time.
I've done this before and ended up getting walked all over or just not ending up meeting up at all.

If she is a nervous/shy kind of person she probably won't be very decisive you have to be.

This girl definitely isn't shy! She's quite the dominant type and needs to be put in her place a bit otherwise she'd walk over everyone! what i meant by nervous/scared is, i think she's real self-conscious and is scared to see me when she's sober coz it'll end up with me sleeping with her and then not coming back! Where as when she's been drinking, she hasn't got so many inhibitions!

anyway...
Her: What are you up to saturday? x
Me: Got to help a mate move and then might be going into town, if not i'll be going to Crawley x
Her: I think we should all head into town x
Me: Maybe, I'll let you know what everyone's up to x

I've made up my mind and decided that i can't be arsed with her anymore and will head into town without her and drop her a late text saying we're out just in case she's about and i'm horny later, lol!

If I knew where she lived, I'd just go round.


Peace,

kowalski

oy, i am not going to give you the address, lol!

I have thought about doing this before but can't actually remember where she lives!

If it was me i would politely inform her that she gets a spank for each flake, and that if she keeps doing it she is going to get replaced with a super model... i've used that one before anyway x

Woah I am no girl. And I don't want any spanking brasiliano!

if a girl flaked once, i tell her 'thanks for wasting my time'
if i a girl flaked twice, i'd tell her 'cant be arsed with you anymore, all i wanted was to meet up and go on an enjoyable date'.

4 TIMES? dood why are you accepting this bullshit. in my opinion she probably does it because she knows you will not be bothered by it. she thinks probably thinks just before she flakes 'last time i flaked he didnt care, i really cant be bothered doin this right now, ill just let him know he'll be ok'.

in my opinion, you need to throw something in there. tell her its pissing you off, you either come out on a date with me or leave me the fuck alone.

ive been more direct lately, putting myself in vulnerable positions. i havent had much progress lately (yes i know the ironic of this statement), but i turned one girl around by sending like 3 texts on the go. the one that made her call me was "why dont you take longer to text, ill wait cause im a loser and i like you".

just my 2 cents. may or may not work for you, but that is the route i'd take.

To be honest I accepted it coz i was i nob! I've allowed far too many people to walk over me! Grr, i'm really angry!

After she blew me out yesterday afternoon saying she couldn't make it, she then text me at 7:30 asking what i'm up to and then at 9 asking if i wanted to go for a drink!
I'm not even going to bother to waste my time with her anymore and if i do see her about this weekend i'll be the messer not the messie but only if i'm having an unsuccessful night!

No girl is special enough to treat me like this and if i've allowed her to behave like this already then i've already set a standard for her behaviour. Time to move on!

congrats on coming to this realisation.

but let me express my thoughts.

she treated you this way because of the character traits you showed. character traits which you have now realised get you nowhere. i would recommend not blaming her and seeking 'revenge' as such, but just realising that if you act in a more dominant way, she will react differently to you.

there is a good chance if you act this way you may be able to have a more enjoyable relationship with her.

i hope you catch my point.