Would you settle down? - Page 2 - Pick-up Artist Forum

Retro · 09-03-2010, 02:51 PM

I started PUA as a tool for me to find the right girl.. so yes i would give it up no problem.

I do concur with Jaz, that you must be the best you can be by yourself without the need to have someone else in your life.

Jaz · 09-03-2010, 10:51 PM

Personally. There is no way I would settle down with one chick, no matter how cool and hot she was. Why would I?

Also, I have met my "perfect woman" like several thousand times.

no.fx · 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaz

I am disturbed by this statement.

Where did you get this idea from? There is no need to feel that you have to be in a relationship to further your career. If you have a good support network of friends and family and lovers. There is no need to think like this. In my experience and from what I have witnessed from my acquaintances. Having a relationship can hinder your work progression more than anything.

Dont be afraid to fly it solo.

If you want a relationship then do so. Good luck to you. But when people sound like they NEED to be in one due to some sort of social pressure, it upsets me. "Behind every great man, is a great woman" is just some pro-feminist statement. It's not to be taken literally.

I understand what you are saying, and don't get me wrong I have some awesome family and friends. However I am the type of guy that gets very easily distracted, for example if I like a girl, I have a tendency to consume my thoughts entirely, rather than thinking about other things such as my career. Maybe this belief will change over time but at the moment I feel like if I found that person, then it would mean that those resources could be spent on my career. From friends I have in the same career, they say that trying to date, while working 6 days a week in a stressful job, where your working 6-9pm most days is very hard. Because of this I dont want to be the guy that is 30+ and hasn't started a family.

Darood · 10-03-2010, 11:26 PM

I will not settle down unitl I have....

A gorgeous petite alternative brunnete.
Someone who is submissive in nature,
has a weird sense of humor like myself.
Is a giver of positive engery in life. Has a decent opinion of herself and how she sees her world.
Someone who seeks adventures and thrills from life and the experiences they bring,
maybe a little naive but wanting to learn more of life.
Is bisexual and is open to me bringing back the odd girl for us to share.
Someone who likes the extreme end of the sexual spectrum.

It may take me a year or it may take 60 but I will have this girl.

I may get close to women in the mean time but i'm always going to be honest and tell them exactly what I want.

Its felt like I've had similar girls like this in my life so far who have slipped through my fingers. I know for a fact the reason I'm in the game is so when this girl comes I'll be the person who is deserving of such a Goddess.

Roody

nova · 11-03-2010, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by no.fx

I am the type of guy that gets very easily distracted, for example if I like a girl, I have a tendency to consume my thoughts entirely, rather than thinking about other things such as my career.

I think it's time for you to consider how healthy this mindset is.

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Originally Posted by no.fx

Maybe this belief will change over time but at the moment I feel like if I found that person, then it would mean that those resources could be spent on my career.

Don't assume you can just get a girl and once you think she's yours you can just focus all your energy elsewhere. Maybe she'll require more attention than seeing you one day a week, and maybe she'll get easily distracted herself.