Hey Guys,

Couldn't wait to report back on this one. Many of you will know that I have chasing a girl I took on a date for about 2-3 months now, she has been sending me mixed messages all over the show. See Link to the first date we went on and pictureAbsolute Amazing Day! For names sake lets call her Sophie.

Anyway, this girl had become a matter of pride and confidence to me, and whilst we had a few rocky moments we finally sorted things out and they were amazing, the banter, the dirty text messaging everything, so much so, I have change the characteristics I look for in a women to accommodate some of the traits she has. I have been very confident with her for example, we went for a walk at night and on the way back to the car we were having a laugh pretending to do sex moves on the benches and eventually my bonnet. I have never laughed and had so much fun! Anyway, we have been texting each other quite abit and seeing each other most days. However she kept telling me about guys that she had been going on date with, which I didn't wanna know, i thought she was trying to make me jealous, so told her about the other girls I was seeing and encouraged her to see these guys she was 'dating'. Many she would say, he's not my type or there is something missing.....

Anyway, the text messages we were sending each other were filthy and it was only time before it happened. Well that night came last Sunday, at 11 o'clock Sophie rings me and we had a chat on the phone, she says she is abit merry and was going to send me a message she had written but didn't in the end and saved it to her drafts. I said send it as u'll keep me up all night thinking about it, the message went like this:

"Tom darling can I be honest with you, I look at u and think yeh i wanna have sex with you as I find you attactive, but then I think ur too nice so hence y I changed my mind earlier as I am really horny and thought I might as well give the girthster a go before I revert back to my badboys, so what u say, u get some food ingredients, then come over, we have sex, have some food and watch a movie. But then you would have to go as I have work in the morning. Soz this is me being brutally honest and being me and thinking of my selfish needs x x"

Anyway I ring her back and and say, why didnt you send that message, u know I wanna have sex with ya! Anyway after a chat, she says I am going home and will be back in 20 mins I'll give ya a text message if I am up for it. 20 mins later and I get 'the text', so I pick her up.

Back at mine, I go into the shower just before we have sex, come out and she is naked on the bed, playing with herself. To cut a long story short, she was amazing in bed, she showed me loadsa different positions and taught me things I never knew before (she is 26 and works in a sex shop, so knows alot). I lasted 2.5hrs and the sex was ROUGH, the best sex I have ever had in my life and feel atm I will ever get it as good in a long time!

Now comes the problem, she said that she had a good night and sex was good etc, but said the confidence she gets from her "bad boys" wasn't there and she thinks its unlikely well have sex again. I believe this was due to me being nervous and having 2 wanks already that day, it was very forced and unnatural. Not how I like things to happen. So I dont feel I preformed as well as I should and was abit apprehensive. I am really cut up at this, as I wanted a few sex sessions with her, as I learnt so much. She also only wants fun and company which is ideal for us both.

Another issue is, last night I took a different girl home that I was dating alongside Sophie. Things were amazing with this other girl before Sophie, however she was very hesitant and lacked confidence, things that Sophie had shit loads of. The night after I had sex with Sophie, I have sex with this other girl, the sex wasn't anywhere near as good as with sophie, if sophie was a 10 this other girl was a 4 in bed. Now i am really struggling to still like her now......after having amazing sex with Sophie things have changed, I want that night of sex with ever girl I sleep with.

I am looking at girls completely differently, knowing that sex wise Sophie is prob the best, I am thinking I wonder if the sex would be as good as with Sophie. I am finding it hard to give other girls a chance now.

If I am honest, I know I am not experienced enough to satisfy Sophie fully, but the thought of being able to have sex with her regularly, would mean that any other girl would be a walk in the park.

Any advice? Or comments?

p.s I have slept with a few girls, so I am by no means a novice but I don't have the experienced Sophie has, i would say that Sophie was as good as what I imagine a porn star to be...

Hey Man... I had a similar thing to this a while ago. I had been in a LTR for around 5 years and not slept with anyone else during that time which affected the old confidenece a little bit!! I got over it by just being honest. She was actually quiet turned on by the fact that she was the first since the LTR and altho the sex wasnt great at the beginnning it definately got better!!

In my experience the key is dont get hung up on Oneitus about this one girl. If you are not massively sexually experienced then dont pretend to be a massive stud or she will see right through it. Be honest about it and also try and sleep with as many girls as you possibly can so that when you do meet girls like the one mentioned in the future you can teach them a thing or two!!!!

Good luck bro

This is possibly the route to your confidence problem in bed with this girl. You have built things up so much now that it shits you up the very thought of sex with her.

That's quite a broad assumption from sleeping with these two girls and comparing them. Maybe if you gave yourself a chance with other girls (rather than dedicating aqll your resources into one) you'd find out that other girls are actually better than Sophie.

Agape has got it pretty much spot on, I reckon. Don't put this girl on a pedestal. It sounds like she gave you sex unlike anything you've had before.

But, and this might shock you: we should spend time with girls for reasons other than sex. Other girls you meet will be less skilled in bed, but will be more intelligent, better to talk too, more fun, more adventurous elsewhere, have more interesting things to say, be interested in other things which are new to you, etc.

Don't just get with a girl based on how good the sex is. Look at everything a girl can offer you, and you'll discover there's so, so much more to it all than that.

lolwut

On-topic, you got owned, get bitter so you can be more hardcore and one day you'll find another girl like her, and she'll be just as crazy and you can move onto the next etc (or you could do what that guy says and find a nice girl who will cook for you). Sounds like you were friend zoned by a slut. This may have been the greatest sex of your life but it wasn't your greatest success.

Also anybody can do sex right, experience helps but attitude is what's important.

Edit: only trolling slightly pls don't ban me yet.

I very much doubt that because this ...

... and this ...

... demonstrates that you definitely don't have your shit together. What are you? 12 years old?

As for your other problem.

Try taking your own advice.

And, here's a little more advice for you. Grow up. For somebody who studies social interaction you sure made a fuck up of this one so far.

By that logic you know what else is possible, therefore you must experience it? Eleven dudes, a chicken and two goats. But you're gonna need to post on a different forum altogether for that shit.


Peace,

kowalski

Oh and here I was expecting different content. You can go ahead and ban me now.

I'm not admin.


Peace,

kowalski