My mate had been trying to set me up with this chick a while back, but nothing came off it. Anyway, I opened this set when I was out in town a few week ago. I then realised that one of them was this chick my mate was trying to set me up with. We got on well, but then we got seperated and didn't see her for the rest of the night.

I spoke to my mate the following day who urged me to pursue this chick. So I added her on facebook, we sent a few e-mails back and forth until I asked her what were her plans were for this week as I was off work. I was angling to ask her out, but received no reply.

Below is the exhange of e-mails. I would appreciate suggestions/advice as to what you think I could've said better or what was lacking. I took her questions as IOI's so I was quite optimistic, but the no reply to my last e-mail leads me to think that I blew it in someway, or of course there is the possibility of an external factor playing a part. She isn't on facebook a great deal, but I know that she must have read my e-mail.

Maestro March 31 at 7:27am
Hi! Did you go out last Saturday then? I wasn't out for long because I had to get up early next day for a charity event and the clocks going forward stole an hour of my beauty sleep lol!

HB March 31 at 2:06pm
Heiia no didnt go out on sat after all had a night in! did you enjoii? x

Maestro 31 at 8:47pm
I thought you were going out celebrating your friend's birthday? Was a short night but good thanks, didn't fancy staying in. Any plans for easter weekend? Have you baught your easter eggs yet?

HBApril 2 at 6:26pm
wasnt feeling to good! ye im out on suday supposed to be my mum bought me an egg and iv eaten it hehe naughty naughty! has the easter bunny brought you any then?

MAestro April 3 at 11:49am
What was the matter with you? Hope you are feeling better, I'm sure the easter egg helped with your recovery I've told the easter bunny not to bring me too many easter eggs because I'm training at the moment and trying to be good, but I may have a sneaky one as a treat

Where are you going on Sunday? I'm supposed to be going to Swansea tonight and Carmarthen tomorrow night, I love bank holiday weekends!

..And I'm off work all next week. Do you have any plans?

The good thing is is that I'm not that fussed on her anyway, but I would like your advice for future use.

Cheers.

Maestro.

No!! No no no no no no no no no no no no!!

I'm sorry to rant Maestro, I really am. After all, I was in your position not so very long ago - trying to get ahead in this "game" of ours and put all this theory into practice and become a man whore. I also realise that I was an advocator of MM in one of your earlier posts (as indeed I still am) and I should be more patient, but it reading this frustrates me. Here is my advice, delivered in handy cut-out-n-keep bullet points (except it's not because I don't know how to do bullet points).

1) Don't email, it's bullshit. Give the lass a call. Meet her in person. Face-to-face time is real time, email time is bollocks.

2) Please, please start to move away from looking for "IOIs". I know for the (ahem) socially miscalibrated they are a useful way of knowing whether a girl likes you, but you're on the path to social awesomeness now. She talked to you. She gave you her email. It is almost certain that she is interested, or she wouldn't bother. Act as if it is so. Assume it's on. If, in your uber-strong reality, she's irresistably attracted to you, then guess what? She will be.

3) Be decisive. As the alpha, cool-as-shit guy, you're the one in the driving seat, calling the shots. Being a leader. As a general rule of thumb, girls are not attracted to guys who are like "ohh so err where do you want to go? I mean we could go anywhere, it's up to you really".
Draw her into your reality. Tell her what you're doing, don't ask her (have you ever seen a woman making a decision? I rest my case). Do what you enjoy - take her to your tai-kwon-do class, go crazy golfing, go for a windy walk. If you enjoy it, she will. Girls love being drawn into a strong, decisive man's reality and seeing what it's like. She wants to see the real you and your real life, so show her.

4) The interaction itself lacked any originality. I'd like to bet that a fit girl gives out her number anything up to 10 times per night. 99% of guys will initiate a text conversation using a line like "so did you have a good night last night?"
Instead, try to avoid questions. This reinforces the fact that you don't know each other. I don't know about you, but after a wicked night out, I text my best mate with something like "Dude, just had a freaking awesome night. Doctor P dropped 3 times. Filth!"
Treat her as if you know her already. Don't ask her how her night was, tell her how yours was. Keep it fun. It's hard to explain, but whatever you do, avoid this generic, unoriginal, ten-a-penny texting/emailing. Like the Lynx advert says, girls get bored easily.

If you HAVE to email / text / fb or what ever as opposed to talking (which as stated is the only way), just do everything you would do normally, I've found out now that there is no differance. If you mess up typing something, and you are being authentic and the same as verbal game, it just highlights that your verbal game ain't that good either.

Don't be 1 thing in one means of communication and somthing completly different in another.

Retro

Hey man,

Ideally you would have escalated to something sexual either verbally or physically one of the two times you met up with her, then got her contact details. Without doing this, unless she is already deeply attracted to you, there is no relationship between you and no attraction. So when you added her on Fuckface you are just some random dude she bumped into a couple of times.

By the sounds of things you would see this girl about again either randomly or through your mutual friend. It would have been best to wait for that to happen (or engineer it) to continue getting to know each other. Random adds on Failbook show an imbalanced degree of interest on your part and a lack of confidence, as you have seen her a couple of times already and could have made your interest clear in person.


Peace,

kowalski

Blanca - totally agree with you, and I had a feeling someone was going to point these things out to me. I will make sure I adopt that approach next time, cut out all the useless bollocks.

Kowalski - duly noted.

I'm not sure how much I like this bird anyway - she is quite pretty and for the 40 mins that we spent talking I thought she had a sweet personality. But it's not like I feel a strong attraction for her physically, or personality wise. I think that is perhaps reflected somewhat in my e-mails to her on farcebook (see what I did there kowalski?!). Nevertheless, I still should've been played it Blanca's way.

It's a merciless game though, one or two mistakes and you're out.....

Cheers for the replies!

Yes. I fucking loved it and it made me chuckle. I'm adding that shit to my repertoire at once.


Peace,

kowalski

if i asked that girl if she thought u fancied her or not after this email exchange i think she may just say "dunno, just seems to be friendly".

i saw no indication of what you wanted with this girl. did u want to meet up with her and chat about ure feelings how ure day went?

get to the point u may have even saved yourself sending 2 further emails.