Can we get a new rule that stops retards replying to peoples questions I wonder?

Reeeeeeeealllly.... how open minded?

But seriously, this is something that is close to my heart and the 'Universe' has planted this post in front of me at exactly the right time.

I met a nice 18 year old just before Xmas... spoke to all night on the edge of the dance floor for about 6 hours... texting all over Xmas... seen her almost every night since I've been back. Having a right laugh! But something has been slightly bothering me...

How to get out and chat to girls without losing this girls friendship or hurting her feelings.

I'm loving being single. It's fucking ace. I love the freedom it gives me to chat to people and doing things without having to consider someone elses feelings. I also love being with this girl at the moment. We are having a good laugh, but I sense her more traditional perception and values on what a relationship should be. So the question I'm currently asking is how do I balance my wants and needs with hers.

Without going through all the fors and against arguments (which are subjective anyway) here's my take:

There has to be a compromise somewhere. I can't honestly expect to go around fucking other girls and for her to be happy with that (if she wants a monogamous relationship). But if I completely lock down my wants to fit in with her as I won't be happy and will end up resenting her (we've all been there I'm sure). So I will still go out and practice PU and be very open and honest about it (no point hiding the fact). I will still take numbers and meet other girls but on a strictly platonic level. That way, I will still get the main value out of practicing PU - meeting and chatting to awesome women! (Note I didn't say sleeping with - that's was always a nice little extra for me - I love sex! But I'm no rat on speed!).

I'm will always be open and honest but I refuse to give up something in my life that makes me happy on account to keep someone else happy. If she can't accept me meeting and speaking to other girls then... well... she's not someone long term I want to be around.

I'm sure there will be subtleties to the arrangement that we'll have to iron out but you can't go wrong if you are open and honest. At least you did your best.

Bushido, hope that helps. I do believe you can have both... but you have to weigh up what's important to you. Compromise but don't be afraid to hold on to your values and never let go. When it comes to PU and having a relationship... an Austin Power's quote springs to mind:

DR. EVIL: "Your freedom has cause more pain and suffering in the world than any plan I ever dreamed of. Face it, freedom failed."

AUSTIN: "That's why right now is a very groovy time, man. We still have freedom, but we also have responsibility."

Abstract? Maybe! haha!

Thanks mate helped a lot, theres pros and cons to being in a relationship or to being single. I think i will take your advice though if i do end of going out with the girl, just continue to talk to other girls but keep it platonic and just be open and honest about it.