its getting to the point where i know that in order to improve i must approach however where i am right now in game makes it seem impossible how do i actually go from having a small comfort zone to actually jumping outside of it and approaching. and IT NEVER FEELS LIKE THE RIGHT TIME TO APPROACH. i understand that i make CREATE the right time please contribute.

You may be past this stage but....

Get used to randomly talking to people, as in tiny interactions like "hows your day going?", to shopkeepers, receptionists whoever.

Make an effort with people you know but haven't spoke to in a while, but could hang out with.

Before going into a club, chat to the bouncers a bit and the people near you in the queue.

At the bar ask nearest girl what she's drinking.

Introduce yourself to every friend of a friend you happen to be around, infact just be the guy who always introduces himself in any situation you can.

If you smoke ask girls for a lighter.

Push yourself to prologue these interactions and create new ones.

Start opening in the smoking areas or at the bar (easiest places I find).

Don't be outcome dependant. Just look to keep getting interactions and make them better and better.

It can start from something as simple as making eye contact with a stranger and exchanging a smile. From there a pleasant greeting like Breaker said. Up the ante each time - push your comfort zones.

We've all been here kidda. I used to tell myself, I'm not ready, need to read more or watch another DVD. You can always make a million excuses its easy. You could probabaly crash this forum with excuses, group too big, too many men, shes' looking at me but she can't be interested, she's not looikng I can't approach.

Push your self. set your self goals and a agenda it really does work and stick to it. week one talk to random people, week two ask girl question run off, week three ask girl question don't run off. No amount of telling you they don't bite is going to work because sometimes they do, but thats the worst and really its no big deal.

99% of women will smell the fear all over you, but be impressed you've had the bottle to say hi, that will buy 5 minutes.

Push yourself man, you'll look back and think what the hell was I doing I was such a pussy.

The guys here have given you some really good adivce.

I am still really new at this but that they are saying is so bang on it's not even funny.

I talked to some girls then wanted to run away but my wing has been pushing me back just to keep talking with them. Just keeping talking until they run away and lauigh about it later. Don't become outcome depdendent like the guys have said. Keep talking, even if the resonse is negative it doesn't matter. It feels great talking to strangers

I had this problem for a long while when I was younger, it bugged me every single time.

I'd sit up at night thinking about times I hadn't taken an opportunity, things I'd held myself back on and constant "what if" events.

Stop telling yourself the time is wrong, stop making excuses, you're only making them because you don't want to approach, because you're scared.

One day, after weeks of going over it in my mind it finally just started clicking into place, you have to force yourself through those excuses, you have to take advantage of those moments before they disappear, stop holding yourself back, you'll kick yourself afterwards if you don't do something about it. Seize the day. It was such a huge tipping point in my life that I have it tattooed across my chest for a very real reason, to always remind me never to waste these moments, if you don't do it you won't actually know if it was the wrong time anyway, doing nothing results in nothing, doing something at least has an outcome - good or bad.

Carpe diem.

u could just go up to more girls!!! ur not gonna die!!

A man after my own Heart! I'm a big Rocky fan too. Heres another quote "its not about how hard you can hit, its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take, thats how winning is done"

If you're finding it hard to approach then just practice talking to people whether it be small talk about the weather, what was on tv last night or whatever then add some otehr stuff. With regards to women ask for directions, venue suggestions or the time. From this you should get some positive reference points where you can move on beyond this.

Set goals and maybe try some NLP!

One thing that I found helped get me over AA was reading Neil Strauss' "Rules of The Game" and getting out there and completing the tasks in it. Most of it is spoon fed baby steps but its a really simple way of getting over that initial anxiety and improving your confidence...