this sounds like a blerb for a PUA book

how about! face reality... its a narcissistic world...

Yeah I'm kidding myself here. Damn those PUAs making me think I shouldn't worry about my looks. I should face reality and be really concerned, I SHOULD think 'it matters'. I'd better try and remember what it was like before I got into all this game sh*T, when I wondered if a girl liked the look of me or not, and made my excuses not to take action.

the fact u still argue is beyond me! explain this then....

my mate REALLY GOOD LOOKING, we walk down the street and girls just stop an look at him!!

i walk into wok & go and see some girl i like and she COMPLETELY ignores me starin at him

if we wer both to walk up to her!! yea, if we had time i could GAME IT UP and probly get her number

but he has the time it takes to build attraction to make his move!! in which all ur efforts are futile.... Looks mean u dont need to build attraction, its already there

the most important part of PUA is building attraction... looking good makes its most important part EASY!!

so yeah, it matters

Looks do matter, the point is it's not the be all and end all. Even the most shallow people can become attracted to the most physically unattractive of people if the right emotions are created through other means.

Looks matter, don't try to pretend they don't matter at all, they play a part in what makes us attractive and there is NO arguing it, there have been more than enough studies that show looks matter. As people that seek to be as attractive as we can be to others we should not shun looks, they're part of the equation and anything we can do to improve our chances should always be looked at.

Fine by me chaps. I just don't let it get in the way any more.

you do see some complete ugly chumps with some really nice girls.

So being good looking helps get you there faster but being a slick confident mofo is also massive

being both is fucking dynamite.

My mate is like that. Ginger, a bit over weight and weird looking but hes got more confdence than anyone else I know. He'll try and pull any girl (approachs more than anyone i else know), if he has a bad game its the teams fault, if he fucks up a test its the lecturers fault. Deluded is the right word , but it works for him so kudos.

Losing weight is an important thing for me. I just feel so much more comfortable when Im slimmer (atm Im aiming to get LEAN), I can notice the difference when I see photographs of myself - when Im fat I look uncomfortable, when slimmer I look relaxed.

Im using CBT to try and get rid of negative thought patterns aswell, not just with regards to girls, but everyday life e.g. uni, gym, rugby etc. If I can push through this, I think I'll be an entirely different person at the end of it.