So here I am a year in......

back in late december i went through a normal "dry patch",

For 2 months straight i swear every set I opened bombed, all my numbers flaked, and after a night at speed dating where I thought Id cleaned up, none of 17 girls "ticked my box", and my frustration went through the roof,

I spend a solid 30 minutes ranting and raving with Stien,Johhny and Craigus in wetherspoons in covent garden, about how the game is rigged, and all girls are bitches.

and I vowed after the trip down to Bristol I would give up "game", no more or worrying about iow's, no more "claws", "best friends test's", no more negs"...

In short, I'd had enough, fuck it, "game was bullshit" I wanted to be a chode again, and spend the rest of my days wanking, and playing ps3...

So heres the kicker, I came back from an amazing weekend in Bristol, with the London boys and that was it done.

The following week back from Bristol, I met 2 chicks, one a polish city lawyer in London and another cute little hip chick from St Albans, who I thought was "way out of my league", and would never go for a guy as mad,nuts and as hectic as me............

I went to day 2's with both of them, no decided to be "myself" no routines, no negs etc etc...

Long story cut short, I banged them both with ease, I then dumped the needy shitty boring Polish one, and have been seeing the other one for 6 weeks now, and to be honest, Ive never been happier...shes lovely... and im a very happy chappy...

However I have to constantly have remind myself not to drop into my old chodey behavour, for example shes constantly asking trying to "find out my secrets" so I tell her a few "close things" about myself every now and then, to keep her interested and to "reward" her and to keep her wanting to know more...

Also everytime she txts me, i have to remind myself not to txt back straight, once again chodey behavour....

so in closing, what have I learnt for me when dealing with dry patches, (it maybe not be appicable for everyone) but over my year in game and espically now it looks like im in an LTR...


1.when you going through you're shit patches (and you will) enjoy it, but be aware of it, know when your in it and then enjoy your other hobbies and friends, fuck it, you could go back to be chode....but just accept it, but even more importantly know when your coming out of it, as this is when you will be on your best form....

2.When your in your shit patch, your wings might not be, so dont rant and rave to them about it, it does no one any good...

finally in conclusion, and ive heard this alot on forumns and seminars, when you are about to quit, as you think youve hit rock bottom and want to give up game, this is when you find your "true best self", and I couldnt agree more, when I decided to give up game and be "my best self" by just being tebbsie and knowing not to be needy, chodey or a dancing routine monkey, this was when I found i suddenly had become attractive my fantasic LTR began...

Peace and keep gaming guys, it will work out for you, you just have to put the effort in...

Good luck mate

I will call your post, "Tebbs Goes Natural"

I don't think that bit is needed. U two are in a relationship... have already fucked...

Tebbs

I dont agree with this at all

Firstly ths is not being Natural or your best self-- this is still gaming as you are not being your TRUE self.

secondly
Every LTR i have been in, me and the girl have become really close by not holding back and not second guessing our intentions and how we approach a situation.
I`ll txt her and she`ll txt me and we both reply straight away or later if busy--we dont think about when is the best time


The things that destroy an LTR are Jeleousy, Needyness and Selfishness stop worrying about anything else, forget the drip feeding her tit bits of info to keep her interested, forget the not txting her back for an hour shit.

ps are you classing an LTR as seeing somone for 6 weeks? did i read that right?
are you insane!

its is better to tell yourself not to do somethin, or act a certain way as long as thhe action u seek is a better action. in time this becomes natural!! all natural is, is a LEARNT PROCESS!!

like if u have a need to be aggressive for nothing, u go to anger management. sure your NATURAL SELF wants to beat up people for nothin.. but ur better to be aware of your shortfalls so u can rectify.

if ur sayin BE UR NATURAL SELF, and your natural self at the time is a needy bellend, then no!! dont be, make yourself aware of it and change your mindset....

things take time

glad to hear it mate, you're over the dry patch and off to a happy place

as it has been mentioned before, once you're heading to LTR don't think about game so much, just be yourself, the new awesome, confident guy you've become