I'm currently experimenting. Was gonna keep it to myself because generally I think it's a load of shite. But since I'd never done it before I signed up three weeks ago for the sake of science/entertainment. So far I haven't experienced the problems you have some reason? In fact, I get messaged allot more than I message random chicks.
Most these chicks are messaging me telling me they love my profile. I guess it's pretty witty and upfront, comes across confident. They seem to buzz of it as it's not just your normal "i like movies and going gym" bullshit. So I have about eight different new girls pm me when I log in (I probably check it three times a week)
So far, I have it winded it down to two girls. They seem keen, but I dunno man, relationship hunters galore. I'll keep you posted.
Also, I refuse to shower these chicks with compliments. In fact, I haven't complimented ANY of them on their looks once (tho they are fucking fit). Because every other dick on there will be sending them messages about how awesome they are inflating their ego more.
I actually saw this one profile, AMAZING looking girl. However, she hadn't wrote anything. This fucking pissed me off no end. She basically expected dudes to message her off her looks alone and couldn't even be arsed to write a quick summary about herself. So I basically sent her a message telling her I thought she was obnoxious, preening bitch trolling chode men. She then told me "I had a bad attitude". I just told her again what I thought about her, then told her to "go cry to her fan club". However, this girl then continued to message me multiple times - she then apologizes - asking questions about myself. Then even tells me when she has written her little bio. Seeking my approval. She obviously just had a load of dudes sending pictures of their cocks. Of course, I've already made mind up about her so just set her on "ignore". Still, interesting.
So basically. 99.99% of the guys on there are total and utter losers. They haven't a fucking clue by the sounds of things. Bare that in mind.
Example message I got from Yesterday:
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Sent Date: 5/26/2011 7:07:00 PM
I dont know why am on here by the way its full of whack jobs or people who think they have a right to comment on how I look and I should be ever so grateful for their bullshit... thats not aimed at you by the way your the only person who has had some interesting conversation shame you live so far away

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