Ok so I stopped going sarging a few months ago as I met this girl and got really into her. I met her out one night everything went good, so I arranged to take her out the next day, surprise surprise she said it was the best first day ever.

Anyway over 2 months the spark sort of went but I like her, but yet it seems like their is still some sort of chemistry, we agreed to mutually break up (her eyes watered). But feel like an idiot. Anyway we are going cinema Friday, how should I plan on reigniting the spark?

I also want to avoid the friend zone.

Delete from Facebook. Hit the gym.

Cut all contact too.

All of the above and this

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ah mate as soon as i seen the thread title...

VOM

it isnt a movie, u dont ever GET someone back... if they come to you... they will!!

while u spend every min every hour planning and thinking of them, they are living their lives...

u spend eternity over them whilst they spend a day in work

LET IT GO RAAAAAR NOW

Mate Phil basically said the bottom line. Thing is more you will try to get her back, chances are you will push her away. Only thing you can do meet her without any expectations, if you get her back happy days otherwise move on.

Hmm.. Your post sounds a little needy, wanting her back, but it doesn't even sound like you've lost her.

So what, you both admitted the spark had kinda gone, and "mutually agreed" to break it off.. yet she has already agreed to see you Friday.

My advice would be, meet her Friday, clarify things between you two (i.e. do you want her fucking other men? Can you fuck other women? If not, clarify it!) and have a good time. Go cinema, goto yours after, give her a wild night of passion, then instead of letting the spark die off.. keep doing new things, keep being exciting, don't get needy, be the cool guy she first fell for

Alternatively, fuck her off and bang her mate

Whatever we say he will more than likely still chase after her and write love letters and god knows what...... due to the fact he is following his emotional impluses, which he has no control over, kind of like someone who has an addiction or a phobia. Our emotions are what control our lives not our logical thought processes. Your emotional circuitry changes through experiance, he needs to experiance certain things in life before he can do what many of us can do. In all honesty i think he should be NEEDY, be WIERD, be A CREEP...... but just dont rape anyone thats bad..... hopefully then he will learn

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uh oh, not the argument about if we can control emotions!!!

I think you already know what you want out of this already,that voice in the back of your head is telling you what to do.
Either you want her or you dont!
If you do make it work,give it your all.If not drop her like its hot and move on,get back to sarging!

Look OP before you meet this girl friday stop off at a bar notice how many beautiful woman are present, do yourself a favour text her, tell her you're not coming, get a drink and head to towards the nearest group.

If she wants another go she'll chase you...she will do it, if she's interested. Women are very predictable if you understand them.