So.... this is a weird one.

My first GF who i had a baby 2 i put her on such a pedestal, she was HOT gym freak with a blinding body & amazin in bed. There wasnt any affection, years like that coz it wernt our thing.

After we split i was upset but found it was easy to go out & fuck new girls as my new single life commenced.

After a few years i met a girl who was funny, fit & very affectionate but i never had the same sexual Chemistry.

eventually i caved and became quite affectionate with her. when we finished i was DESTROYED, perhaps it was part of ALOT of bad things goin on in my life but i loved her ALOT.

now even a year on i still missed this girl.... probably do a little, we wer good mates HOWEVER.

i went out with a girl about a month ago, and she was doing this same flirty touchy affeciton thing my ex did... and it made me realise that the thing i was missing was not the girl but the affection. obv this girl meant nothin but the way she acted made me realise that my missing my ex was a trivial need for somethin i had & missed.

im not really the affectionate type but the reason i made this post is when we finish with a girl, and we feel that PAIN... its because we have a part of somethin we needed/ wanted that we wont get anymore. so u may have loked the sex, how fit she is, her affection.

SO is this maybe a way to kill the relationship comedown. Find what u missed, and have it replicated. u cant then disassociate the feeling of need with the girl. because i mean instantly, that same night my whole way of remembering y ex changed... and all emotion ran dry.

Somthing to think about next time ur hurting. Find what you miss & replace it for a short period i think thats a TRUE rebound

I find as I get older I get over women easier.

peeps need affection I think more than sex. I think this is especially true in the uk cos everyone is very reserved compared to other cultures where hugging and kissing is something that peeps do to peeps they've just met.

Phil I wish I read this post when splitting from some of my previous exs

I can kinda see it too.. its so true

Knowing that someone actually cares for you and is not just using you for your (massive) cock.

Someone who looks up to you and admires you and would go to the end of the world to find you.

I guess the love is what we miss from a relationship, maybe not being in love but being loved by someone regardless how you feel for them. So yea the affection, knowing someone cares so much.

I myself may differ from alot of you guys, i dont sleep with multipul woman and have one night stands. In this day and age its not much of a challenge and doesnt fullfill my inner desires enough.

I sleep with woman who excite me emotionally and feel something more for me than just lust.

Its so much more fullfilling in the long run than blowing your load into some girl and afterwards feeling like theres something missing from your life.


AJay

I read as baby if the mother refrains from showing effection to the child such as cuddeling and showing real love and breast feeding for a suffient period of time the child will grow up with imtimate issues!.

And will struggle maintaining real loving ralationships also the child may struggle through the schooling period hence he or she will be on catch up mode for the entire duration .

I think real effection is really important to every human being if we dont get love as a baby the baby will die .

I think real effection is vital to every one.

I think less and less surprises you because you might not have experience with a particular entity but you know the behaviour of people, companies etc.