What exactly do women look for in a LTR?
IMO, it's usually summed up by the nice guy attitude and as long as they feel safe with them (plus all the other humour, attraction). But there seem to be an awful lot of people in the UK, girls especially who are married to "nice guy" types. Obviously they're not that frustrated as they found a girl they like but these men probably settled for the one of the first few girls they found they got along with - I have a lot of mates for example who married their 2nd or 3rd girlfriends.
So, if women are really after the strong playboy type person, why do so many settle for the nice guy types?

In my opinion the nice guy type is a great provider gives her what she wants/needs basically runs round after her.I have found tho like myself,if ur overly nice shes probably cheated/cheating on you!!
As for what they want in an LTR,companionship,friendship and to feel safe?!
It depends different people look for different things in relationships.

I think this really depends on the girl, you can usually tell the trustworthy type. I don't think it's a great way to have an outlook on life to expect every girl to cheat on you...it depends what you class as overly nice.

'Exactly' is the problem for your thinking, completely.


Peace,

kowalski

no u cant, every girl i meet says i wouldnt be able to be faithfull & all say about my mate

"ah you can tell he would never cheat"

i dont

and with his last GF this guy fucked 2 girls in a hotel they stayed in whilst she was in bed on holiday.

people who cheat are insecure, need outside sources of validation. Also people wont cheat on people they respect.

I didnt mean every girl.I was with my ex for 3yrs and i know she never cheated on me because herself esteem is so low she worshipped/worships the ground i walk on even tho self addmittedly i am a chode!!
I just meant in general as i and friends have experienced,if ur a total door matt to women ie buy them everything,write them poetry be a total chode.Needing her to provide you with your own value.Chances are she will leave you or cheat on you!!
Maybe its a negative view point but if youve been burnt enough times it makes you reluctant to trust women your dating full stop.

Isn't that half of what pick up is about?

...building self esteem through validation?

That is putting the cart before the horse.

It can be so much more than that. This (PUA) is a dead end. It is a wrong turn. Seeing how and why it is so, is the value here for those who get there.


Peace,

kowalski

no. Pua is about idiots & money.

if you need validation. Then your doing life wrong

Better rename this forum then...unless you're here for the money.
Most sexual encounters are about validation of some kind plus attraction, people wouldn't brag about shagging girls otherwise.