ah rite, were we talking about being in a relationship?

I just like to define my relationships with women. The ones I have as friends and the ones that I fancy. There's no grey area then and no one will get confused.

Don't think I've ever thrown a paddy in my life.

P.s., how are you Phil?

Girls like to be chased and maintain their value. Girls that haven't " felt the same way " could be just bs. and they just wanted you to try abit harder before they let you in.

if a girl got with every guy who made his intentions clear then they would be fucking tons of guys every time they go out / get approached

I bet my cotton little socks that if you played it abit cooler and didnt drop the " I like you bomb" so earlier that things work out for you more.

I agree with fox here. In the long run being upfront pays off. I'm not saying that I'm very upfront but that is what I'm trying to achieve. Being a social chameleon is an AFC thing to do in my opinion.

I think Fox and Phil are both right. Personally for me somewhere between holding hands and going to bed for the first time I'll drop in a
"You're cute/funny/beautiful. I like you." before moving on in the conversation

I don't expect it to be reciprocated but I find it usually stops any LMR down the line plus why would you be trying it on with a girl you didn't like?

It works for me, but thats because I make it work for me, my mate manages to have a fuck buddy relationship with girls for a couple of months without liking or love words rearing their heads.

this is same as me

things work out for me fine

i dont understand why u need to tell her u like her, its clearly coz ur not sure if she likes you. just assume she does.

if she didnt, she wouldnt be sat with u.

women dont like neediness or emotional weakness, saying I LIKE YOU is emotional weakness, it shouldnt need to be said, what is there to gain?

unless they ask you, just say, shut up u divy course i like you... then move on!

I LIKE YOU isn't as bad as DO YOU LIKE ME?

But I LIKE YOU is not needed to be said. You can get laid without it.