So I find myself here after a breakup, its been 2 years now and I still cannot get over it, and it shows when i have no confidence at all when i try to talk to women,
I read the game and that's how I found out about pua,

Having since gone through double your dating by David de angelo,
And hoping to try it out,
Also I came off Facebook when she finished with me as i couldnt bear to look at her pic, and very recently she is on the same dating site as me so i came off there too,

Is Facebook a good thing to be on? To find women? Long shot but my ex might contact on me there too?

So what should I be aiming for this year? Get through rsd decoded? What should i do about my ex try to contact her or get over her somehow?
I would like to have my confidence back and hopefully find someone to love that is my goal by persuing the pua game
Any advice greatly appreceated

I find facebook pretty useful ive met and fucked a few girls from using it.I prefer it to dating sites as i feel they make you look needy as well as competing in a sausage fest in my eyes.
Stop worry about your ex ive been where you are years ago,its hard but you need to forget her and move on!! why would she contact you after 2yrs??
Try RSD foundations and transformations first.
What i did back in august as i hadnt been out to pub/clubs for three yrs due to and LTR,so was scared of going out tbh,just go out and chat to people get used to talking to lots of women and getting a vibe with them.Then from there slowly start throwing in some kino,or intent etc and build you game up as you go.

Thank you for your reply, im glad you know where i am as you have been there before, i have only now just started to go out but im not at all confident with women,
where would i get the rsd foundations & transformations from? anyone here know?

so you think facebook is a good step forward i know i will be looking at her profile pic the moment i get on there thats the reason why i keep myself off,
but saying that im not getting any interaction with women now im off there
a vicious circle

Hey, sorry to hear about your situation. Most of us have been there and it hurts, if my advice sounds blunt or harsh please don't take offense I only mean to help.

Firstly forget your ex. Right now! Put her behind you by boxing up all those soppy mementos, pics etc you know shouldn't be around. I don't mean everything but definitely the items that evoke strong emotions. You are going to throw this box away eventually but not yet, for the moment pop it in the loft where you won't be seeing it!
Stop looking at her Facebook page etc because if you're not on talking terms then it will make it worse. Delete her number too, out of sight our of mind

Next go out! I don't mean just leaving the house, do stuff, salsa classes, climbing, bar job, evening classes. All of these things require that you go out and interact but not in a sexual or stand out way. You will get used to making small talk and interacting with people plus as a result of the classes and activities you will become a more interesting and well rounded person as you learn more and get great stories or discussion points.

I found the most important confidence booster for me was going to the gym, make yourself look and feel better by slimming up, building muscle and releasing those endorphins. You can have a program made for you but with a couple of hours good research you can make your own and find out a lot more about biology and chemistry.

Next get out there and start using all of this information you have been Learning. At the moment it just seems that you are reading everything but you don't necessarily need to. You can read all about a sport or subject but unless you train and do you'll never be much cop

It's a shit place to be thinking about some girl but we've all been there so sometimes you just have to choose your path then put 1 foot in front of the other. Good luck

Thanks for the sound advice matey, and no worries your not harsh at all the truth always hurts and is always the best way forward,
i have since breaking up joined a mixed martial arts academy and really enjoy it up to purple belt now and earlier this year also joined a ju jitsu class up to orange belt on there, i really enjoy these and give me something to look forward to, problem is there are no women in these sessions
the only time i see women is if im out for a drink around town, and thats when i get all wussed out and wont approach,

I work in a power station so all my interaction day in and day out are with men,

saying that i am seeing someone at the moment but its a very hush hush she doesnt belong to me putting it bluntly

my biggest thing is trying to forget my ex, im sure i have posted something about her before, but a little re cap is 2 years on after countless councelling and a hypnotherapy session not a moment in the day goes by that i dont think of her its very soul destroying and affecting my life familyand friends

nothing like finding a new woman to help move along so thats why im here really, having the confidence to go and talk to someone, and actually know what to say would be a massive step forward for me and hopefully forward to a brighter future

I will warn you the blunt members will be yet to say there piece mate so be prepared we don't tollerate chodey behaviour here lol!

Personally I wouldn't go to into the material, its just gonna suck you in and you'll never go out and do anything.

RSD stuff is sound but I'd be more tempted to say skip those two series and just go for the blueprint. It's all you need then go out practice meet people it will all make sense in time.

A lot of it isn't always about going to meet women, its just about building a life where you're busy and social and loving what you do. Thats more important, if you enjoy your life you feel you have value, you'll be more social and find it easy to talk to people as you believe you have valuable things to share.

Being more social and create more opprotinties by being places where you can meet people and women and then taking opportunities when they present themselves.

Also regarding your ex sod the bitch, everytime you want to talk about her. Or use her as the reason you have issues in your life you just make it stronger. Fuck thinking about her, punish yourself when you start talking about her or blaming her for not doing something. From now on if you mention her so much as even think of her you owe me £10

Your on matey, no more mentioning the bitch move on to a better one,
i have the blueprint and its loads to take in i have got through to half way twice then given up
i think i should kick start again,
i have started to, dont laugh but the old biddies at the local morrisons checkout just strike up a conversation as im frantically trying to bag my things up, knowing i would never try to get with them helps me to just say anything and practice breaking the ice

rabbid are you trying to make up your Christmas debt for £10 wagers

It's just such a good idea I know someone will agree to it