Rule of thumb if you start feeling needy, make your distance from her.

Definitely be cool if you feel needy

Why do you "need" her

You can bang who you like

Well for me each new girl i meet represents new experiences . each unique to each girl

So I become "needy" if a certain girl interests me..and I want to explorer her ( no pun intended )

it might be just that

I obviously literally don't 'need' her, but it does feel like it. Have just developed a school boy crush. Plus haven't seen her since Saturday so is all up in the air at the moment.

Need to be cool. I'm pretty sure if I do she will come to me. If I stay feeling like this then it's game over!

'Bang who I like' - Half true. Slim pickings here (I live on relatively small island in Caribbean). Girl above is best thing going at moment, but a few other potentials at least.

Not sure if this be cool thing worked.

I ended up getting fed up of playing it cool and just addressed the elephant in the room. She stood by what she said when she was drunk. Not going to get with someone who's been with her mate. Despite the knock-back I instantly felt far better and was my charming self again.

Conclusion: Genuine = Non-needy! I find it's usually to do with my ego I feel needy and very un-genuine reasons. Squash the ego, squash the silly mind games (that I'm only playing with myself in all honesty) and squash the neediness!!

snake eyes, read up on the concept of authenticity in existentialism. It might help reinforce some of what you just said

Hey Snake..

from your pics on facebook looks like your having a good time mate

steve