How many times have you been rejected?

Personally, I have been blown out 100's of times, no shit, fucking hundreds. In all different ways and manners. I have been physically hit, had drinks thrown on me, been called every name under the sun and generally humiliated. Yet I am still here, because I getz the pussy yo! I can remember years ago when I had my first awakening to this here community. I was using my favorite line "the drug dealer opener". It was my bread and butter. I was in this bar, cocky as ever. Felt amazing because I had my magic spell to use. I spotted this 2set, typical bitchy looking hoties. I thought, lets throw caution to the wind and nail it. Needless to say, it was my first major blow out. Allow me to recreate it:

Jaz: Hey, quick question do you think I look like a drug dealer because I have been asked for coke like three times tonight already.

Girl 1: Err.... No you dont look cool enough (?)

Girl 2: Who the fuck is this prat?

Jaz: Ahhhhh... Errr.... cos like they askin me for cocaine...

Girl 2: Why are you talking to us?

Girl 1: FUCK OFF YOU WANKER!

Jaz: .........

That is all true. It was the first real rejection I had in field and it was fucking harsh. Wow. I was thinking about that for weeks afterwards and I didn’t approach again for days. Little did I know at the time, not only was that the first of many blow outs, that was not even going to be the worst.

Throughout my journey of self-improvement I have questioned everything about myself; I am not rich enough, I am not funny enough, not good looking enough…. You get the idea. All because of the initial reactions of some random girls, in some random clubs. Yet to coincide with that failure, there have been some amazingly successful pulls. I have been with some amazingly beautiful, sexy, funny, quirky, intelligent woman. I made that happen, me. Nobody helped me, I cold approached these girls, and within in hours had made such a strong connection with them and well, good times were had by all.

So who was right, the hairdresser from Wigan who told me to fuck off after 5 seconds, or the girl that whispered in my ear she wanted to “ride my face”? After MUCH deliberation I have come to this conclusion; I am sociable, intelligent, well humored, good looking, confidant and great in bed. Look in the woman’s singles ads, you may see I fit the bill. I know that for a fact now, you may call me deluded but I am 100% sure that I am a cool bastard and any woman would be lucky to have me. But wait, hold on, I still get blow out?

WTF?

So I started thinking. It isn’t as easy as, you’re not good looking enough or you’re not dressed in a certain manner. There are many reasons why you/I have been blown out. Allow me share my revelations with you….

1. She lacks confidence

There was this girl in school who fancied me. I was in year 10; she was in Year 11. In school years that’s like a 60 year old courting a 16 year old. Anyway, she was hot, really fucking hot. I had girlfriends in school but honestly; I only got with them because it was the “thing to do”. At 15 I was more interesting in more important things, like weed and ninjas. Anyway, I knew this girl liked me as I had been told by my overly excitable friend, so I was kind of being pushed in to “asking her out”. I didn’t have the balls. One dinnertime however, she approached me.

Girl: This is weird, but did your mate tell you what I said

Jaz: Yeh… Ha. Yeh…

Girl: Are you gonna go to **** party next week?

Jaz: Dunno…..

Girl: Do you wanna go with me?

Jaz: Errrr…. I think I’m going skating.

Girl: Right…

And that’s all she wrote. I knew the guy whos party it was. I didn’t go because I was pussy. I fancied the arse of this girl but I lacked confidence in myself to do anything about it. She was confident, pretty and “older”. I felt that she was just to good for me.

Anecdote over.

You can probably relate to that. Believe it or not this happens to woman too. No honestly. Even….. in…. clubs… (you catching my drift sukka?) That old community saying that: the hot girls are always easier than the war pigs. It’s so true. Reason? Really beautiful woman may have a lot more confidence than an average looking girl. She will be more receptive to a cool, confident alpha male approaching her – and supplicate. Ugly fatties tho, are not used to it. You approach an average to below average girl (we all do it) don’t be surprised id you get a cold shoulder. Because she may just acting like me Aged 15. Lacking in confidence the girl will simple not like being under the spotlight, give you some hostile shit just to make you leave.

Think on this tho: later on she will be kicking herself she didn’t jump on you

2. Social Anxiety/Peer pressure

After little time in the community, one learns about LMR, bitch shields and shit tests. These of course are vast topics that I am not going to delve into but there are similar reasons to why you would receive them. One reason in particular is the idea that woman are socially conditioned to act in a certain manner. One in which she cannot be viewed as a slut or “easy”. This is an interesting theory. In essence Woman are not sexually liberated. Classic example: some dude sleeps with 50 different chicks and he is hailed as a god by his peers. A chick does the same – she is outcast from her social group and called a slut.

So if a woman’s reputation regarding her sexual exploits is so sacred, they are going to make it difficult for us right. How? By testing us, seeing what type of men we really are. If a guy approached a nice girl in a club and straight of the bat she makes out with him (I don’t see a problem with this) then her friends may “talk” (this is her perception not necessarily reality).

I for one have encountered on humorous occasions, a total bitch, who doesn’t seem interested at all. Of course my persistence broke through that wall, I passed her test and attraction was made. So when you get blown out bear this in mind.

3. Emotional timing/logistics

Pretty simple this. However I haven’t actually seen this idea pondered in many sources. I certainly have never heard any PUA’s discuss the idea.

Hold on I will give an example:

Jaz: Hey, Im Jaz!

Girl: FUCK OFF!

Jaz: Jesus calm down.

Girl: FUCK OFF!

Jaz: Oooook then….

*at this point Jaz realizes the girl he approached is actually crying*

Girls Friend: Yeh sorry about her, she has just had some bad news

Jaz: Oh shit, sorry

Girls Friend: Yeh her Mum has just been run over by a milk truck….


Get what I am alluding to? Great, so you’re a super pimp, socially enlightened, playboy, hustler from the future who is always ready to party and ALWAYS in state. However, where all we care about is getting pussy and writing up pointless shit on the internetz, REAL people have other interests and things to contend with, you know, like life and shit.

This means you don’t know what the fuck is going on in someone’s head just as you walk over with your spanking new opener your keen to try. She could have just split up with her boyfriend? And you walked away calling her a bitch, you savage! Logistics play a role, and there are millions of reasons she might not be in the mood to chat. She may be on her period? This doesn’t bother some girls but others become super emotional during certain points in there cycle. Poor girls, they have it much harder than us you know. So stop being a self centered bell-end. “Boo hoo, that girl rejected me, I am a chode, boo hoo”. For all you fucking know she just found out her dogs got AIDS. How do you feel now? Yes, like twat.


4. Your approach was “off”/PUA noob

This one is simple enough. If your new to this game, then like anything, you get better with practice. You will learn the basics, how to approach, dealing with groups, AMOGS, blah blah blah. All the pick up theory. At the start it is important to get a grasp of the core concepts, this will give you a solid foundation to work off. So a new guy, hesitantly shuffling over to a super hot club girl only to bumble out an incoherent sentence – will most likely get blown out.

Good news!

After a short period of time, you get unconsciously competent, you are able to get out of your head. In essence, the more you stick with it, the less rejection you get. Obvious? Yes but thought I’d include it anyway.

5. She is a bitch.

Some people are born with a dick head gene. They cant do anything about this, they are just, well, dick heads. That is equal across the sexes. You will encounter some woman that are just cold hard faced bitchs. I want to be clear that out of all of the reasons I have given this is the least likely. Generally people are nice, we are taught from a young age manners and how to act in social situations. Some people however do not conform to these niceties and go through life with a shitty attitude.

One thing to remember is that it is THERE problem NOT YOURS. If you get some ice queen who cold shoulders you then insults you. Well, it is her loss. She has to carry on being a miserable bitch and she wont get far with it, don’t let it affect your reality.


THE TRUTH

So there you are, food for thought if anything. But I have more to say, something I have been feeling is an incongruence in this community for quite some time. One of the key aspects as to WHY you feel your game isn’t what it is and WHY you may feel that you are not getting progress. It’s the biggest lie in pick up.

The “Perfect” Game.

This community is sold to men with tales of other men with supernatural ability with woman. Men who within minutes can have any woman dough eyed and ready to please his every erotic desire. Guys who can take whichever woman they choose and never get rejected.

This is a lie.

Even the “MPUAs” they get blown out, read the RSD blogs, guys like Tim and ozzie openly admit that they have to get “warmed up” before they start hitting it. Go out with other guys sarging. You will see that every dude gets blown out during a night. As stated before, there are numerous reason as to why. But what sets the “masters” apart from the noobs. Is that the guys who are good at this know two things:


I used to take rejection to heart, I would be gutted for days after a harsh blow out. Now I find it funny. I find it funny that I got upset that some random chick made me feel bad about myself after she made a judgment of me in three seconds. I also now just find it funny – generally. When some girl blows me out now, I usually turn to my boys and just piss myself laughing. Because I have usually said something ridicules for my own self-amusement and the girl refuses to see the funny side. End of.

You are going to get blown out more times then you close. I am at the point in my journey now where I don’t really get quick blow outs, I can generally “ride the wave” and turn it round to an extent. But if I get a really hostile response from the start I will just laugh and move on – in my eyes she isn’t worth my time. Anyway, I hope I have given you some stuff to think about. The reason I have rambled on for so long is that I am sick to death of seeing some of my boys looking so sad at the end of the night because they had a few rejections (boo hoo!). Please, please, get over yourselves, and with that I will leave you with this quote from Michael Jordon (you know that guy from Space Jam)

One word - word!!!!!!!!!!!!

Absolute Class Post!

Picard.

Great post man! It's so true about all these guys writing up articles about how they are getting bored because it becomes too easy for them or some technique that they use which gets them laid every time. I used to read these and think, fuck yeah I wanna be that guy! But the truth is I was setting a goal for myself that was unrealistic, and fake. My ideal self was way too far from reality, and it was fucking with my head.

Great article! Really inspired me! Even more, I just learned something new about myself and rejection Thanksx.

Yup. I found this very helpful too. It's really well written, especially the story of you as a 15 year old because I'd never fully understood how it would feel to lack confidence like that from a woman's point of view.

You've probably covered this somewhere in your post, but I can't see it so I'll say it anyway. A lot of the time, what you think is rejection actually isn't anything of the sort. I do most of my girl-meeting on the street and I reckon that at least 50% of the unsuccessful sets think that I'm a salesman/pollster/fundraiser/prankster/etc.

We know the real reason we're talking to her so we instantly assume we got rejected because she thought we were too ugly or lame etc when in fact, if only she'd realised we wanted to chat or even hit on her, she would have stopped and enjoyed it.

Bingo!

Exactly my friend.

Very inspiring my man! So much so, I'm going to haul ass and get me in to town!

This forum is great!

Jaz you really need to start putting some effort into your posts.
Shit.

Legend !!!!