hello!

what's just happened? the girl you spoke to didn't want you? she rejected you? it didn't go as planned? you WISH it would of gone how you'd wanted it?

i am a victim of my own expectations and wants. when i do not get what i want, fear, pain, and suffering take over me.

i wanted that conversation to go different. it should of gone different. i wanted that other girl to acknowledge me. she should of acknowledged me.

when things don't go your way, you really get to see what your inner beliefs are, and what you think should happen. anytime you feel pain after or suffering after something didn't go the way you wanted, it shows how you are trying to resist life, trying to change the past, which ultimately is unchangeable.

have you ever thought that the belief 'it should go how i want', isn't true at all? the belief 'this conversation should go well', also isn't true?

so much pressure is placed on ourselves by OURSELVES, and all it does is cause suffering. its because we have wants and needs out of a conversation. but alas, somethings aren't meant to happen, and instead of rejecting what has happened right infront of you, or in the past, we need to accept them, unconditionally, to be at peace with them

have a think guys, and for guys who are in pain now due to dealings with women, try and look at why you are in pain. what are you beliefs that you are trying to deal with right now. because they are beliefs that are being proved wrong, and this mixup is causing you grief, and you cannot possibly be at peace when you are in the mixup.

i am not talking about the future, don't concern yourself with the future. the future is uncontrollable. only the present you can control/understand. so concentrate on what is happening now, and have a look around, and see why things which are uncomfortable are happening now

i have just experienced this now. i wanted it to go different. it kept cropping up, and i have felt a bit uneasy. but simply acknowledging that it was not supposed to go that way, has left me feeling calm, and immediately sent me to this post.

we all feel pain. this whole community is riddled with it. goals that you SHOULD live up to, GOALS THAT YOU SHOULD ACHIEVE. it is painful. i don't believe it needs to be this way. not at all

over and out x

Noted




LL

nice post

did u just come out live on PUA.co.uk adam

i dont understnad phil! did u fuck that bird?

lol'd readin my facebook today readin u and that squash injury x

Great post Camarda, i was thinking of doing a post similar to this but you summed up what i was going to say awesomely. Much appreciated dude.

thanks mate! its funny how i managed to write this pretty much first time it all just flowed so nicely!

edit: although readin it now i would change a few things!!

"The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle" springs to mind. Good post.

Thankyou for this useful post! Its come very well timed for me