Most of us when we get some skill only approach a certain type of girl, usually hot ones and why should we go for anything less right? Well the problem is that over time when you take a break from sarging, the dreaded AA can come back and all your hard work can go down the shitter. Sure you had many successes in the past but your old negative beliefs come back and slap you in the bollocks!

Lucky for me I love a variety of women and thats not to say I go for just anything but if I have had a long break then I wil force myself to approach anyone just to get into conversation to get my rhythym going again. And before if i was using direct I will have to go back to indirect. Some people say you shoudl push yourself hard but this never works in my view because you just put too much pressure on yourself.

I know with the new technology of Direct and Mode one we may feel like frauds not being honest with our intentions. If you have suffered a crisis of confidence or you've just come out of a relationship or you had a long break and haven;t approached for ages you cannot be expect to go up to teh first hot babe you see and tell her you want to get to know her because she is hot as fuck!

Think of it like this, a body builder goes to the gym, 3- 5 times a week and get really muscly, ripped then he has a long break due to either injury or even laziness. He loses some of his strength and finds that the weights we lifted before, he cannot lift so rather then lift the heavy weights he has to lift the lighter dumbbells but over time he gets to where he was again and is lifting heavier weights again.

So guys, don;t be fussy, don't be fussy about the type of women you approach or the types of openers you use especially if you have had a long break! You may get into a tedious conversation about fly fishing or cookery but so what? This is actually building up momentum and if you just use these interactions as stepping stones you will find your confidence will come back. For me, especially when doing daygame I have to open a fair few sets before I get into my groove!

When you were first learning pickup you thought nothing of using indirect openers on any type of girl without feeling guilty of being dishonest. I try not to look at it like I am being dishonest but that I am creating opportunities to improve my confidence by practicing my conversation skills. I have number closed plenty of girls in bookshops just from using lame indirect openers and I have even asked some of them "what about if I had told you, you were beautiful?" and they have said "yeah I would have loved that" But we need to warm up, its important because say you see that HB9 you will get so nervous that you will fuck it up, go blank that you won't approach but because you have had a long scintillating conversation with an average women with no agenda or even an old lady for christ sake, you can take that positive memory into the next set.

Isn;t this better than getting frustrated because you wuss out of approaching the quality girls? That frustatrion will be carried into the next set and the girl will sense this and in turn become a terrible cycle!

The new technology of direct and mode one? What the fuck are you talking about? There is no technology, being direct isn't new, mode one is a retard.


If you are a PUA and you stop practicing PUA, you will suck at it and your AA will come back etc.

If you are a cool, confident and sociable guy and you aren't spending any time chatting girls for a bit because of other commitments, when you chat girls again there will be no difference. None at all.



I chat all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons but never as social practice, that's not a correct way to treat the other and I actually think that practicing being social is impossible you are either being social or you are not and if you are there to practice some skill or improve some skill set you are not socialising and the skill set you are improving or activity you are practicing is not social but other.

... and it is sociopathic.

Practicing talking to people is what stroke victims have to do in rehabilitation.


Peace,

kowalski

Also, look at it however you want, it is being dishonest. You are lying to people brazenly to produce a certain outcome favourable to yourself, making you a confidence trickster.


Peace,

kowalski

L fuckin OL

Kowalski I generally like your posts, but are you sure you shouldnt be posting at puahate.com now instead of on here?

You don't like my posts in this thread?


Peace,

kowalski

Thanks for your replies guys! Let me make it a bit clear, if you happen to be a naturally confident social guy then taking a break from meeting women wont affect you too much. But consider those poor guys who have always been shy, lasking in confidence and not just with women. I used to be really painfully shy, couldn't even look anyone in the eye. my whole body would feel like it was shaking when I walked into a new social setting.

Even before I knew about the community I would simply approach girls asking for the time. Maybe it did seem weird or dishonest but it was helping me become more social. You have to understand that some people have to use indirect ways of approaching women and approaching average women otherwise they will never be comfortable talking to beautiful women.

I agree with kowalski and other posters pretty much 100% i said i thought pua was bullshit in my first post on this forum i do believe.

The problem with alot of this is that it is aimed at guys who cant enjoy the company of females unless they want to shag them. Enjoy people, enjoy socialising thats it.