We are men and have sexual urges but who's to say we can't enjoy talking to the women we approach. If you begin to enjoy the interaction, relax I believe everything else pops into place, You don;t have to worry bout dhv stories, negs (which I don't do anymore), routines, blah blah!

Its obvious but when you want something she sense it. You wil be tense, fidgitty and go blank worrying about how to keep the conversation going. There have been times when I have chatted to people, infact strangers and friends alike, just enjoying the conversation. When you enjoy something, you are relaxed!! Conversation flows naturally. You're not coming from a place of lack but simply enjoying yourself.

Now if we could transfer this feeling towards women I am sure you would not need to have anything prepared or pre scripted. You don't prepare a script when talking to your friends. You banter with them without even thinking about it and when you have been with your girlfriend for a while, you know you can get sex whenever you want providing you dont piss her off too much hehe!

When approaching women it is far too common to want something from them. If you can demonstrate you are relaxed and enjoy what they have to say, things will just lot into place. Hell you wont even need silly gimmicks, rehearsed lines or negs.

Just enjoy connecting with another Human being, its a beautiful experience!

Then what is the point in being on a pua website? Just talking is what you can do in every day life.

I believe that tony77 was playing up a devil's advocate angle here to promote to newbies & AA boys the need to enjoy the convo on a more natural level rather than going all robotic on a series of canned lines. You should have fun on a night out, the randomness et al, have a laugh with who you speak to, and have a laugh with your PUA mates.

I very much enjoy connecting with a woman too, its a beautiful experience when I have my way with her...

I never understood AA.

i agree.
even if you consider dhv and stuff, this all makes sense. what can be higher value than someone just being themselves, talking casually to another person without concern of the outcome of the interaction.

i think the idea is to show intent without neediness, and just chill out and be a cool guy. no tricks.

What you're really on about is developing 100% natural game to the point where you don't have to try or to think about it, it just happens. Once you stop thinking about it, you can just relax and get on with enjoying the process.

I'm about there myself right now. Never actively 'think about' PUA when I'm out and about. I've just run it so much now that's it's just a part of who I am, so I cut back and enjoy the ride

Exactly that!

Then this forum should be called BYSforum.com
Be yourself forum... doesn't catch on.

When you have studied various pick up skills then accept that you have internalised all thta knowledge along with your own life experiences, when you can trust in your own abilties and relax when talking to women you don't have to worry about being outcome dependant, impressing her or worrying about the next thing to say.

What we are doing is developing ourselves - Self Development. You become the better version of yourself and when you become happy with yourself, accepting of yourself you transcend beyond rehearsed and canned material.

The problem is many people don't like who they are so they have to hide behind a mask of routines, pick up lines and gambits in order to pull women. Yes this can work and by becoming used to using this type of method it can produce confidence but true confidence comes from within. If you were truly comfortable in your skin you can just chill and live your life to the fullest rather than simply surviing life!