Its also posssibly a lot to do with her genetic programming you tell her you don't want a relationship, that suddenly becomes exactly what she's going to want, the one thing she can't have is always what she'll will want. You tell her you're not my type, she's challenged to make you her type, etc, etc. I have an example from last week, i told a girl it's not working out, her response was 'you're not getting away that easy', prior to that she was pretty cool with me, now suddenly she's txting a dozen times a day, the week before last it was once.

I'm not the man to ask about this. If you are having sex with a girl and are hanging about with her socially as well - that is a relationship. No matter how you frame it. In her mind you are a cool guy who she really likes and has sex with, that is a boyfriend. So dont be surprised when she wants to make it official.

Like I said from the top of my post, my style is all one night stands and casual lays. That is because it is all I want right now. I wouldent bother knocking about with a chick if I was banging her because I would be leading her on and I wouldn't want to hurt her.

It is really tough man.

Last September I was in a club with Legend. Met this lovely girl. Ended up going back to hers with her friend. Didn't have sex with her (!) but really liked her so arranged a day 2. Went out for the day 2 and had an awesome time with her however because of logistics I didn't bang her again (!!). Ended up going on a DAY THREE (!!!) had a good time and finally I had sex with her. By this point we had gone past the comfort stage and had a really good rapport going on. The morning after we went for lunch and went out again that night. She even came to meet me and some of the boys one night. This went on for a few months. It was falling into a relationship and I had to make a decision. After banging my head against a wall, I still knew that I did not want to get involved in anything serious. She told me she wanted to commit to SOMEONE in the future - I knew what she was alluding too. I had to let her down gently and fortunately she just happened to be moving from Manchester at that time also.

IN hindsight - I should have cut my ties with her early on. After the day two maybe. I'm not scared of relationships it is just I know that DO NOT want one right now. So that whole hanging around with chicks I'm banging, I just don't fuck with that.

She was pretty fit though.

She was quite nice

Nice one for the advice! Just did the 'right thing' with the girl I've been stringing along for a couple of months... Shouldn't have let it got that far... Man... that didn't feel good... But I know it was for the best.

To flip this, I think we are all adults and if the girl is capable of making a decision that is all on her. I'm honest, that's me done.


Peace,

kowalski

THIS!!

If you start hanging about with the girl socially as well, she's going to end up using the L word some time fucking SOON!!!

Seriously agree with that, some women act all innocent like the man has just crushed her world, even if he has been clear from day one. She knows what she is getting in to, she makes her bed, she has to lie in it.