i came across this in an email by adam lyons might help a few people

Topics to Avoid in Good Conversation



One of the most underrated things about growing up is knowing just how useful it is having a mother to guide you through different social situations. You may not realise it at the time and you still may not even realise it now, however, the ability to have her over your shoulder reminding you to think before you speak every time you're about to really drop yourself in it in front of your grandparents or friends is invaluable. The problem with growing up is that we often find ourselves in social situations and, whereas in our heads the words may seem completely sound and even at times intelligent, in reality once those words leave your lips you suddenly realise you may not have chosen the ideal topic at that moment.



How many times have you been so desperate to ignite a conversation that you start up a seemingly innocent discussion on a certain topic only to see the entire mood of the table go dead? Or worse, the entire room goes silent upon hearing your statement or question on a specific topic. That silence is akin to the same silence that follows the visuals of an atom bomb just before the explosion rocks your ears or the eeriness that comes with the silence in the eye of a storm. Thankfully you can avoid these explosive conversation destroyers by simply avoiding the dangerous topics for good conversation listed below.



Political Policies

Considering most politicians have both good and bad points and that no matter how many parties the UK actually has, it's pretty fair to assume that almost anybody you meet is either Pro Labour or Conservative. This gives you less than a 50% chance of meeting someone with the same political view as you. Either way, it's a topical double-edged sword. If they are of an opposing party they're going to argue with you and disagree with your general views on a number of topics. If they agree with you the conversation is dead anyway. Politics is a no-no.



Religious Riots

In a similar vein to politics, religion is either something you agree on or something that could start a pretty unfriendly conversation. Bearing in mind that more wars have been fought over religion than politics it's a fair conclusion to assume that this topic should probably be avoided more than the previous. Considering most religion comes down to belief all you're really arguing about is who has the better invisible friend. This can be a very touchy subject and is really one to avoid.



Equality Everywhere

Whether you do go out of your way to promote equal rights across the planet or your idea of helping others is to simply avoid shouting at the charity workers that accost you to help out in struggling nations when you see them in the street, you are likely to find that most people you meet are as unwilling to speak to you about the worlds problems as they are unwilling to listen to the charity collectors speeches.



Work Worries

No matter how bad your job is or how much your boss sucks and micro-manages everything you do, try to resist the urge to tell every sympathetic ear the ins and outs of your worries. The truth is, most people are also tired of working every day and the last thing they want is to sit and listen to your stories about how bad your day was. You'll only succeed in boring them with situations they really couldn't care about. The only thing possibly worse than this to bring up in good conversation is how much you love your job, as all you'll end up doing is rubbing their own miserable job in their faces.



Insulting Innocents

No one likes to sit and listen to people criticising others. It only paints a really bad picture of the person doing the insulting. They probably don't know the person in question, which only makes them wonder if they really are as bad as you tell them they are. If they do happen to know the person in question they only begin wondering if you talk about others behind their back as well. If you're going to spend time talking about others try to make it positive at least that way people assume you only hang around cool and interesting people.



Personal Problems

As interesting as your warts may be to yourself, it's a pretty safe bet that whoever you're talking to is unlikely to find it a remarkably interesting conversation. Personal worries are unfortunately something that tends to dwell deeply on our minds and, although the old logic of a problem shared is a problem halved, you have to understand that the half you give away gets given to the other person who then has to dwell on it, worry about it and even worse visualise the problem for themselves.



As great as our parents may have been about guiding our conversations the fact is that sooner or later we have to fend for ourselves. Without being told why certain topics are off limits we often make the mistake of using them anyway to disastrous effect. However, our elders weren't correct on every topic. You may have been told to avoid the topics of sex and drugs whilst growing up due to them both being taboo. With modern society being what it is these are not only no longer awkward subjects but actually topics that people can relate to.

Some worthy points there from My Lyons. There's nothing worse than someone moaning and groaning about stuff and getting wound up on politics, least of all on a night out!

Balls to Adam Lyons.

I know he is a big name in PU, and think he seems like a pretty nice guy.

However, I often chat about religion, politics, equality, work, problems and insults, with perfectly good results.

This is good advice for the socially inept or those studying canned style game. The naturals among us will say what we feel like. The last thing you want to do is second guess yourself by wondering if what you are about to say is good enough or socially appropriate. I decide what's good or socially appropriate to talk about.

Remember: It's not what you say, it's how you say it. According to one, albeit flawed and often mis-cited, study what you say only makes up 7% of peoples emotional response to you. Another shows that your tone and body language are 4 times more important in peoples emotional responses to each other than what is actually said. Talk with passion, make it amusing, be sure of yourself.

I remember spending a whole evening in a heated argument with a girl about whether women in general and she in particular should be allowed to vote (of course I really think women should so was just arguing the opposite for self amusement and a mental workout), then I fucked her in an alley behind the pub (Scunny girls are high class ).

Nothing against Adam though. I'm sure that if I was under pressure to constantly produce new material on a subject, sometimes the stuff I produced would be absolute drivel.


Peace,

kowalski

Indeed. My Lyons is forgetting one key factor. These subjects can sound dull on face value, but only if you make them dull. You can in reality make the most mundane subjects into a sexually charged flirtatious encounter with a girl. Whenever I've been sexual with girl chatting in a bar it always ends up being the most bland conversation you could probably imagine on paper!

Chruch !!!

Church.


Peace,

kowalski

Church with big fucking bells on it!

Pealing loudly.

Potentially in the running for best quote ever!

Anyway, I would have to say, I have never really talked in a set about politics or religion etc, Welsh women tend to be very head strong, and from experience conversations about religion are not easily gotten out of once begun. Especially if you confess as I did, that I believed in nothing, An man is where he is today out of his own volition.... speaking to a massive Christian. It was very, very bad times. In the end I had to bail "to the toilet" because she was giving me a headache.

Although they do love the silly Jeremy Kyle opener. Almost every time they fall for it, and then the spill their guts to you about how and what they would do if they were in that situation. Then it's just a case of getting your mops out.

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