I thought about writing something about kissing on my last field report but I thought it would get lost within it.


Feel free to add your thoughts or girls weird kissing techniques.


Of the girls I kissed on Saturday the first one was really full on tongue straight down my throat. The other cute curly blonde had a weird habit of sucking my bottom lip which wasn't too bad, but all the time it gets a little weird so I said something about it she stopped doing it as much.
One other girl once pushed so hard against me while kissing I pulled the muscles in my neck and another kissed like a washing machine and stuck her tongue in and just swung it round and round in my mouth.


I tend to kiss quite gently at first a few pecks no tongues then passionately build it up and go with the moment. I sometimes touch/hold there head too as I know a lot of women like this.
I also gently run my fingers up and down their neck, this is where a lot of nerves are so it's very sensitive and depending on how passionate it's getting i kiss them on the neck too.


I can be quite playful with kissing too.
I go in for a kiss and as they are about to kiss I pull back then they follow and I keep going back until they smile or look confused then I smile back and kiss them properly but then sometimes they pull back then you just grab them and kiss them really passionately.

I was like this before I found out about any push pull stuff, it works really well it shows you are fun and also they desperately want to kiss you more.
Depending on how fun/crazy the girl is sometimes I do weird things like go in for the kiss and move up and kiss her nose instead or even a little bite.


Not to be big headed or anything but I think kissing is one of the things I'm best at PU wise. If I kiss a girl she stays with me all night so I think kissing is an often overlooked but effective if you can get that far, that seems to be my biggest hurdle!

Good post. I like mixing up my kisses, maximizing sexual tension. Also, I think it is key that I finish the kiss (rather than she does). We kiss, then I stop. Then re-ignite etc.

cool - I'd be interested in hearing how you go for the kiss. For many people, this is the biggest hurdle - those scarey few inches (or feet). For me, this is sometimes not the smoothest. Are you a grabber and a puller? How do you calibrate?

Anthony

Good post! Tom you are a Pimp!, I like your style.

From what i've seen with Tom he doesn't pussy foot around, when he senses its on he gets stuck right in.

It's interesting that quite a few girls regard the ability to be a good kisser as important, yet the majority of girls i've kissed have been pretty awful at it, only 2 girls can I say that I actually enjoyed kissing.

Sometimes I pull them in a little bit but not too much.

This is kissing! Calibrate sounds a bit like changing gear ratios or something mechanical

How do I know when she's ready to be kissed?

I'm no expert at getting to that stage but I think it's if things are going well, she's responding to you, laughing/intrigued etc and she doesn't mind you touching her then go for it.

I think it's obvious you have to have her comfortable with you touching her first, like touching her sides, around her waist or shoulders. How do you expect to kiss her lips if you haven't touched her first.

Sometimes I've got it wrong but not for a while (touch wood, queue random cock joke). I think if you move your head slightly closer and she is ok with that and if you can see it in her eyes, I know that's a bit vague but I don't really think about it too much when I'm in the moment.


You have to take control and dictate the style/rhythm/speed or just tell them playfully, like I told the bottom lip sucker something like "you really like my bottom lip don't you?"
If they go full on straight away then slow it down without tongues etc then build it back up.
If they're the opposite then you have to slowly build it up, if you do it right they'll be tearing your clothes off.
I once was seeing this girl that said she didn't like tongues but after getting more and more passionate she ended up putting her tongue down my throat. After when I said something about it she said she didn't remember doing it!

The whole lean in and pull back thing is something I do to. Girls just loved to be teased. Not just when kisssing but all the way to penetration.

Tom has pretty much described the best way to go about things. I also include stroking the clavicles, and will always pull her in at the waist so our bodies are touching. I love grabbing girls asses, so there will definitely be a bit of that going on and probably a quick spank or two aswell. And, I like to stroke from the top of the thigh over the front of the hip bone and onto the stomach.

I hate being tongued down, it's gross!

I also find that I can dictate how the kissing goes down. I give her subtle cues as to what I like by my responses. Also, often what she does to you are the things she would like done to her. She is kissing you that way because she thinks it's hot when people kiss her that way. So first correct her behaviours, then give her back what you have learned she likes. This follows through right to sex and foreplay. Where she touches you she usually likes to be touched and so on.

Similar to Tom, when I kiss a girl she will be all over me for the rest of the night. Tom can vouch for my awesomely sexy kissing (can't you sexy boy x). I don't make a rule of ending the kiss first or anything like that, I play the whole thing situation by situation. Ramp the sexual charge and tension up, without letting it get out of control. There will be no juvenile, low class, 10 minute snog session from me in the bar.

Pulling the trigger: This really depends on how we are both positioned. If we are standing up talking I will move in closer so there is less than a couple of inches between our faces, not straight on a little off to one side so I am close to her cheek and I am talking to her cheek / ear / neck area. Our lips will be nearly touching each other, and our breath will be on each other. Then there is only the tiniest space left to bridge. Then just go for it. She will be totally prepared, expectant and already turned on a little. Pretty much if she wasn't going to let you kiss her she wouldn't let you be that close to her either.

If we are further apart due to sitting down, or I am just gonna go for it from a further distance, I will slip my hand around the back of her head and pull her in dominantly. At this point there may be token resistance. She may peck you on the lips then pull out. Just pull her back in with a little force (that's a little force people not advocating any rough stuff). This may happen two or three times before she submits. She just doesn't want to be a slut. Even girls who have ended up in my bed the same night and / or gone on to be regulars have given me this type of ressistance, if i hadn't ploughed through it none of the awesomeness that followed would ever have happened.

You can tell the difference between token ressistance and her actually not wanting to kiss you. If she doesn't want to kiss you, she will actually squirm a little, and / or pull back harshly, or similar.

If I keep getting cheek, I will do something like wag my finger in front of her face, whilst smilling and looking at her like a naughty child that you just can't help but like, then touch my finger against her lips then against mine and go in again.


Peace,

kowalski

Good post Kowalski

I do the whole lean and pull back thing too... I love it when they press themselves all upon you.
As you touched on, you can tell a lot from the way a girl kisses you too. It can sometimes be like foreplay when she becomes really passionate and can be almot like them saying "Take me back now!"

As for the whole calibrating the kiss thing, I personally love the moment. Being a psychology geek I just find the whole thing interesting - and every time I kiss close, I am learning more and more

My two cents,

Ritz

Nice post man. I usually consciously try to do alot of what you've listed but if im drunk or whatever it just happens lol. I think I'm an alright kisser though, My first kiss lasted over an hour :| though I was 17 so I guess I was making up for lost time!

"girls I kissed on Saturday the first one was really full on tongue straight down my throat." - This is funny...how long was her tongue?

"sucking my bottom lip" i love girls who do this but most of the time i love girls who are open and want to try and play with new stuff. Kissing makes us more horny, the senses become more intense when it come to kissing...makes your mind relax. especially when you just close your eyes..

I don't mind a girl sucking my bottom lip but when it's constant it gets a bit annoying and weird.

i remember my first kiss, a chinese girl who snogged all my mates then moved onto me.

she was tongueing me to shit, holding my head with 1 hand and holding her bike up with another. i thought 'yeah im cool as shit' but really i couldn't wait for it to be over and get her rancid tongue out of my mouth.

kissing is hot with a good kisser. haven't had much tongue in my mouth. always mine in theres. love snogging when drunk, its fucking hot. always pull away first and do a slight tease. but never too much as i have overdone it and they think ure not interested in em. BUT true story: i was chatting to a minger did not give a fuck did not want her, went to kiss, then pulled back. i did this for a total of 50 times. YES 50. i could not believe it i actually went in to kiss her, then pulled away OVER 50 TIMES!

fucking mental.